(Closed) Invitations: Please make sure you are spelling your guests’ names correctly

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I tried my best to get them right, but still made at least one error.  I asked DH’s dad how his brother’s name was spelled, and he told me it was Mark.  I assumed he was correct.

He wasn’t.

I got the reply card back that MarC and Donna would be attending.  Exactly with the C capitalized and underlined.

There’s only so much you can do, especially when inviting people you’ve never met before. 

Post # 18
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33 posts
Newbee

I’m with the others who said who cares!

There’s so much to do organising a wedding so obviously something will be missed. I’d be more embarrassed that someone rung to apoligise profusely than just having my name spelt wrong!

 

My husbands name is Mathew with one T, most people just don’t even notice that there is one T and not two so write Matthew! I put on our wedding website

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MaThew is spelt with one T !!!!!!!

 

So we get it all the time

Post # 20
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I received a list from my Mother-In-Law for her guests so I could send them invites.  I had never heard of this couple before…so I didn’t know to think it was wrong.  The name was Walters and I definitely sent it to the Wolters, as indicated by my Mother-In-Law.  I was SO embarressed when I got their reply card back and it had their correct name on there.

However, they did not send it back underlined and capitalized.  That seems jerky.

Post # 21
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

haha marC is a jerk!

i tried my hardest to spell names correctly, but fmil did not make that easy for me. she gave me a handwritten list, and i can barely read her handwriting. while i was going through the list, i flagged a bunch to doublecheck the spelling. there were a couple that she gave me two different spellings for, and these names were common enough that i couldn’t find most on google.

also, a semi-related rant, fmil failed to include apartment numbers for everyone who lives in apartments. it was so frustrating! i had to keep going back to her, saying you know i’m pretty sure this person on the upper west side doesn’t own an entire building! 

Post # 22
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3132 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Agreed.  SO annoying.

My last name is ridiculous and Polish, so people have been getting that wrong my whole life.  My own BF couldn’t pronounce it for the first six months we dated!  My first name is unusually spelled, and my mom’s side of the family still doesn’t get it.  All my Christmas cards from my uncles are still spelled incorrectly.  It’s so infuriating.

I understand that sometimes things happen when you’re dealing with tons of invites, but still… be careful.

Post # 23
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3132 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ugh.  My computer keeps double posting.

Post # 24
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My calligrapher accidentally changed the name of one of friend’s husbands from James to John. Luckily I caught it as I was stuffing envelopes, so I just handwrote an envelope with the correct names — but it just goes to show you have to double check everything!

Post # 25
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1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My first name gets misspelled all.the.time.  It is really annoying.  I made sure that we were extra careful about our guest list to ensure everyone’s names were spelled correctly.

Post # 26
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My cousin, whom I have known for more than 40 years, just spelled my name incorrectly on an invitation to her daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. She could have just checked it on Facebook, but I assume the was certain that I have the ‘extra e’ in my name. Whatever. I was just so happy she had my fiance’s name on the invitation as well.

Post # 27
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Whoohoo!  I agree.

My name is ALWAYS spelt AND said wrong (first and/or last) and it’s exasperating.  Even my employer spells it wrong, even though of course I’ve never written it like that on any paperwork…come on!

Yes, that is just common sense.

Post # 28
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I too agree.  My AUNT made my cousin’s escort cards… my last name was spelled wrong, FI’s last name was spelled correctly, WTH!!!  I was a little ticked off, I did tell my aunt! lol

 

I hope she does not screw up my name on our invitations she is making for our wedding… Undecided

Post # 29
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1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I found a few mistakes on my MIL’s list, but it was all people that I knew.  So, I actually went through my list on white pages and looked up everyone in the online phone book!

I found a few mistakes, plus a few I made too.  But, as I was writing out RSVP cards, I realized I had addressed one of FI’s male friends as “Mrs.”  hehehe… it made me laugh and I was REALLY tempted to not change it, but I did.

Post # 30
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107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I am with the posters who said who cares?! My first name is spelled with an “i” not a “y” and don’t even get me started on my last name. But I could really care less….I’m going to throw ALL of that stuff away lol. There are more important fish to fry in my life then stressing about whether someone took the time to look up how to spell my name. Is it lazy…um, maybe. But people are busy and I’m not going to blame them for not putting “spell her name correctly” on the top of their priority list lol.

Post # 31
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My Mother-In-Law gave me a list of addresses that had a least four different instances of misspelled names. Of her own relatives. I had no idea until we got Christmas cards from a couple of them later on; it was mortifying, and I’m still a little annoyed at my Mother-In-Law for not giving me the correct names. She’s also the reason we sent invitations to two divorced couples (uh, oops) and got half a dozen invitations returned in the mail because the addresses were wrong. 

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