Post # 1
Our wedding is October 14.
My fiance and I need to give our final head count to the caterer 23 days before our wedding date (Septemeber 21). We have moved a lot due to jobs since graduating college and have made friends in these place we are still close too. We also have larger families, mine which mainly live on the other side of the country. We have our main guest list but we know not everyone will be able to make it (some have already told us they probably will not be able to come due to their own reasons). We have a list of other people that we would like to have there but because of the limited space we did not send them save the dates incase we are not able to invite them in the end.
Has anyone ever sent out a group of invitations to guest with an ealier RSPV dates than others? We planned on sending the family members and friends that live a plane flight away invites ealier incase they decide they can not come then maybe we can invite friends that we want there but right now can not have due to the space issue. If so how far in advance did you send them?
Post # 2
Definitely don’t send invitations out in rounds or with differing information. Invitations get mixed up and big families talk. Someone will inevitably get the wrong response card or tell someone with different information what date thiers says. They’ll find it patronizing to have to send their response back earlier. Or they’ll panic thinking they were left off the invite list when they hear of everyone else getting invitations and they haven’t yet.
Virtually everyone faces the problem of how to invite people last minute after declines. Unfortunately there’s no magic answer. If I were you, I’d set your response date for a month before the wedding, which is probably still too early, but hey. Then I’d be honest with your B-listers that they’re on the second round and you’ll let them know as early as possible. B-Listing will get you into trouble on the Bee, but I think it’s fine so long as you’re honest.
Post # 3
If the family and friends you sent out STDs to live far away, I’d just go ahead and send out invites to your B listers. I mean, not everyone does a STD and honestly I wouldn’t think it wierd to just recieve an invitation. I’ve gone to weddings where I recieved an email invitation a week before the event. No big deal – I had never met the bride, was going to school with the groom, so it’s like I expected to be on their priority list (or hell even invited). But it was nice to go and celebrate with them anyways. I wasn’t doing anything else that weekend and the wedding was local, so it wasn’t like a huge inconvenience or anything.