Post # 1
Its oficial! We sent out our invites yesterday! It took us a few days to even coordinate schedules to get to the post office before they closed. And wouldnt you know it was JUST the right weight. We didnt have to put extra stamps on like I expected.
Now.. It is 10am the next day and Ive already gotten messages: Didnt you put your registry info in your invitation??
Um. No. Cause the Bee says so. Plus we arent looking for gifts. We’re looking for support. (Im not going to send back your toaster though, everyone needs a back-up.) And. We DID put our website info on the Accommodations insert, which has our registry information.
This particular question may or may not have come from my Future Mother-In-Law… I wont say. But. I LOVE HER DEARLY. It makes me feel bad that Im not meeting expectations or something… She wants her son to get the toaster he wants. Understandable.
Did anyone else have similar responses?
Post # 3
I am planning a wedding in three months alot of registry info and stuff is word of mouth but… i think all fmil atleast mine wants the “best for her sons wedding day” I have gotten so stressed out about the whole thing i just said whatever happens happens and pray the day gets here soon so i can stop stressing
Post # 4
“If you’re looking for registry info, you can find it on our website. Technically, it is poor etiquette to put registry info on the invitation because it can give the impression we are looking for gifts, when we’re really not! thanks for your concern”
Bah. Her inquiry should NOT make you feel bad.
Post # 5
Agree, people do things differently so if she’s just asking then it’s perfectly fine you did it another way. We didn’t even have a registry and my sisters had a lot of people asking where we were registered but no one asked us why wouldn’t we have included the info with the invitations.
Post # 6
Let me add… my Future Mother-In-Law and I have a really great relationship. We have moved on from this topic. But the lingering “are you still wondering why we didnt put it in the invite” question is still in my mind…
@ejs4y8 Thats pretty much what I said.
@hnjunebride :/ aw. I dont think until you PLAN a wedding you actually realize how MANY people have been dreaming of this day for you and for him… and how many opinions they have. I try to stick to what WE want. its still hard to hear it… It will be here soon. Make sure you’re finding some joy in it!
Post # 7
Don’t even worry about questions like that! You did the right thing by not including the info. Word of mouth, the wedding website and the shower invitations are the only way guests are supposed to find out about the registry. You will start to get a lot of questions, some dumb or annoying, others totally valid and helpful. Its all part of the… fun!
Post # 8
We didn’t put ours in the invite and no one had problems figuring out that it was on the website. In some locations, it is still pretty common to put registry info in the invites. People will figure it out, but make sure that your parents and BMs know the information in case someone asks them.
Post # 9
Our invites haven’t gone out yet but I have people asking me why I’m not going to put our registry info on the invites and I keep saying, “Get a copy of Emily Post and you’ll understand.” lol I don’t really say that but it’s what I’m thinking. I politely say, “Because I don’t feel it is necessary and people can find out through word of mouth.” lol
Post # 10
If people are talking to your Future Mother-In-Law, that’s great because she can pass along the info. They are doing the correct thing by asking if they want to know about a registry, and she should do the right thing by letting them know your wishes. Where’s the problem? 🙂