Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I’M GETTING OUTRAGEOUS RESPONSES!! I alway thought that if the outside envelope on an invitation was addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Miss Jane and Miss Joanne” that meant that four people were invited. So how does someone who gets an invitation for 3 people reply that 8 people are coming to the wedding?! I also got one that was for 2 people and they replied with 5! WTH?! Do people have no common sense?! I’m seriously freaking out, I have 200 guests but with these responces I have no idea how many I will end up with. I feel it was my fault because the RSVP card looked like this:
M______
__accepts
__declines
__number of people
But I included the “number of people” in case one of the persons on the invitation wouldnt be able to make it! I don’t know what to do. How do I tell these people that they can’t bring their guests?!
Post # 3
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536 posts
Busy bee
@Almy_al: It seems that they are adding kids to the guest list. You’ll have to call and explain they were not all invited.
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
@Almy_al: You better start calling now.
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
Well, I included the kids when I addressed the envelopes. The people who replied with 5, is a couple who does not have kids. I even extended the courtesy of a plus one for my single friends. Of course these people don’t know this but… UGH!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
@Almy_al: 8 people? That’s madness. How about you saying something along these lines:
“We’re really sorry, but due to budget constraints we only have you and such such down for our wedding. We consider you a really good (friend), and hope that this doesn’t discourage you from coming.”
Good Luck!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
funny
I didnt include number
it was either accept or decline
I specified another note to friends requesting no guests(if they were married or engaged they were both invited) because I only had a small party of 60, they understood
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@Almy_al: It’s a couple without kids and they want to bring 3 other people? Who are these other people? So weird!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
You better start calling!
Future Father-In-Law and FSMIL rsvp’d (11) people onto their (2) people invite for FI’s cousin’s wedding!!
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
Call them and tell them there has clearly been a misunderstanding. People do not get to invite whoever they want to your wedding.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
Yikes! This is the one thing that I am definitely stressing over. When I send out our invites I am definitely going to put “We have reserved 2 seats in your honour” on the RSVP card. Hopefully that will squash any “extras” from trying to tag along.
Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
my favorite is when they respond but dont put names on it – that happened to me a few times. oh great 3 people are coming – not sure who though!
im so sorry this happened to you! the audacity of people these days – i would not dare bring univited guests to a wedding, just my husband and me (no kids yet, and even at that i would get a babysitter, even if kids were allowed)
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Oh no no! That is why I put the number of guests attending because people do not use common sense AT ALL! I would definitely be calling those people and asking them exactly who they are bringing. I would clarify this is not an open invitation.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
I’m so worried becasue we did the same.
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