(Closed) Invitations– What is “etiquittely correct”?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly, I have no clue! Sorry. Every invite I have ever gotten just mentioned the bride and grooms names.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Whoever is hosting should be listed as the host..

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Whoever is hosting should be listed as the host..

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My parents are paying for most of the wedding and are traditionally hosting the wedding. However, I really wanted to include my FI’s parents on the invites so our wording listed my parents as the hosts (Mr. and Mrs. So and So request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter…) and then we listed my Fi’s parents under his name (Lt. So and So, son of Mr. and Mrs. So and So).

We are having a formal wedding and I went through a stationer to designer our invitations and they are sticklers for proper ettiquette and this is what they suggested to me. We didn’t have any drama at all, in fact people that we told or showed the invites to (they haven’t come in yet, still waiting!!) loved that we included his parents on the invite.

I just felt like it’s both of our special day and both of our parents shoud be included. We still wanted to keep with tradition and ettiquette and found the happy medium.

I say go with what makes YOU happy and honestly, nobody will care as much about your invites as you do. Sadly, they get looked at a few times and more often than not, go in the trash. We love them and they are a reflection of you and what you love so do what you want 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@LaviniaRose2013:

That’s a tricky one. Will you be sending invitations for the Rehersal Dinner? If so – then you can indicate on that invite that the groom’s parents are hosting.

Also, you could maybe word it so that it appears that your parents are hosting, but you would also list the groom’s parents? I found this online:

Mr. and Mrs. Oliver Durand
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sophie Lynn
to
Jeffrey Matthew
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Michael Lautrec

So it’s clear that your parents are hosting, but also gives the names of FI’s parents.

We are hosting the wedding ourselves, but we are still listing the names of both our sets of parents.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh! triple posts.  Sorry!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mrsmurraytobe:

Oops – I didn’t see your post & gave almost the same answer. Good advice! Smile

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@PrairieGirl: No, you’re good!! Yours is actually more visually appealing and easier to picture so really, good minds just think alike 🙂

I really like this idea because it includes both parents without taking away from one set of parents being the traditional host.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

EDIT – I wrote this whole long thing, but I like what others suggested. Assuming your parents actually do want to be listed as hosts – mine are helping contribute and they had a very strong preference NOT to get credit for hosting.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah i agree with @PrairieGirl: and put their names under your FI’s names and put  “son of” Mr and Mrs Hisparentsnames.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@LaviniaRose2013: We’re hosting our rehearsal dinner and figuring out wording for the invite was a pain

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

To be honest, I think only people who are in the wedding world even notice the invite. I never have noticed whose parents names are on an invite and have never equated that to who is paying. I now realize that it apparently is etiquette and tradition. But I bet a lot of people don’t know these rules. So my advice is don’t stress so much. If your parents are hosting then put their names on the invites and a shout out to grooms parents in the program. Thanks you and stuff shouldn’t all be about money. There are other contributions and support people may offer.

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