(Closed) INVITATIONS!!! – When to order them, when to send them and when to expect RSVPs?

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Post # 2
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

i just finalized approving my invites for our October 25th wedding… my designer will be printing them sometime over the next month or so and I should have them in my hands early July… I plan to mail them out mid-July and asked for RSVP by Sept 25. Hope that helps since we’re just a week between each other!

Post # 3
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Our wedding date is 10-31, we are sending our invites the week of Labor Day Weekend, so around August 26th or so, with RSVP’s due September 30th.

Our invitations are already made, assembled and ready to be sent.

Post # 4
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If it makes you feel better, I’m getting married a month before you are and our save the dates haven’t gone out yet either (end of this week is the goal).  Since they’re an optional thing, I don’t think there is any strict timeline for getting them out!

For invitations, general rule of thumb is 6-8 weeks before the wedding date, so for you that would be the beginning of September or end of August.  Find out from your caterer when you need to get numbers to them, and make the RSVP deadline 10-14 days before that to give you time to track down folks you haven’t heard from.

We got our save the dates from Vistaprint and they came out really nice and you can order in small quantities (like you, we only need 25 or so of each although we ordered extra save the dates for whatever reason).  For invitations I am looking at Cards and Pockets because they are pretty cool looking without being pricey.  I like Minted but those are beyond what I want to spend on paper someone is going to throw out. 

Good luck!

Post # 5
9021 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


msfreemis:  you are getting married on my 1 year anniversary. 

we sent Save-The-Date Cards out 6 months in advance (we only had a 7 month engagement so couldn’t send them out before that).

invitations went out the last week of july with an rsvp date of October 1st.  to get the room block rate, the deadline was september 4th which is why we sent out a little earlier than normal.

Post # 7
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Vistaprint has excellent prices, but I would suggest getting invitation/paper samples from them before ordering. I was very disappointed in the quality of their product, but I know lots of ladies here have used them and love them. I just received my invitations from weddingpaperdivas, and I love them. However, they’re significantly pricier…almost six dollars an invite (including outer envelope, inner envelope, invitation, response card, response envelope, accommodations card, wedding website card, belly band, and printing of return address labels.) This with square borders (they charge more for rounded) and standard paper. I got samples from minted too, and they were beautiful, but cost even more than weddingpaperdivas. I should mention that our invites aren’t even letterpress or anything, just a beautiful watercolor floral design.

I actually saw a “print it yourself” wedding invitation kit at Joanne’s crafts the other day that was quite reasonable, like $25 for 25 invites, and they looked a lot nicer than some of the purely diy invites I’ve received. My advice is to get online and start ordering samples from everywhere you can right away, as they take a while to ship, while you more clearly define what exactly you want and what your budget is.

As far as your timeline goes, you’ve gotten some good advice so far…I am having a destination wedding, so the typical timeline doesn’t apply for us and I’m not an expert anyway!

What do you mean by little cards and envelopes? If you’re referring to enclosure cards/response cards, it’s really up to you. If you’re not having a formal event and wish to forgo some of those formal elements, that’s your prerogative. We have more enclosure cards, because there is more information to convey- with a local, backyard wedding (just for example) none of that would be required. Personally I’d raise an eyebrow at totally eliminating the response card, but you could, if you wanted to, and just do an online only or telephone RSVP. I’ve seen people send out invites that were just the outer envelope with the invite itself and a response postcard, too. That would certainly save some money, while still adhering to the “traditional” response. Do whatever you want, though! Really, it’s your wedding, your invites, your day.

Post # 8
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

msfreemis:  My wedding is September 13, 2014. We ordered our invites as soon as we knew all our information such as ceremony times, venue etc. We came across a sale online for invitations and ordered them sometime in December and they arrived beginning of January (mind you its 1 piece of card stock and printed to that, nothing too fancy as we didn’t want to spend a lot of money on something we knew most people would end up throwing out). Most invitations are to be sent out 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding. We set our RSVP date 2 weeks before the wedding so we can work on seating charts and giving our vendors final numbers. We are sending out invites  at the end of June only because our venue cuts off our discount for booking hotel rooms 1 month prior to the wedding so I wanted give enough time/notice to our guests to be able to book a room if they need it. I think that its about 12 weeks away from our wedding that the invites go out but i am thinking of moving the RSVP’s to be in a little earlier than the 31st of August just because we have a friend doing our seating chart and wanna make sure he has time to do it! Especially when RSVP’s can lingere in with last minute RSVP’s.

We ordered online from a website: http://www.basicinvite.com 

They were quick, had great customer service and we ordered 75 invites and they sent 79 just in case. They called when our colours wouldn’t match up with the cardstock and made sure we’d be happy. They always have deals/online codes to get discounts! 

Post # 9
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i designed ours myself, and will be having them printed by catprint. our wedding is 10/12/14, and we’ll be sending our invitations out in late july.

i would advise against vistaprint. their paper quality isn’t that great. yes, the printing can be affordable. but the quality just isn’t there, in my opinion. our save the dates were printed from them, and the quality even of the upgraded paper wasn’t fantastic (and the envelopes were awful).

Post # 10
2156 posts
Buzzing bee

msfreemis:  I didn’t send save the dates (we’re having a smallish wedding, with 99% of the guest list being local). 

But, I sent out our invitations for our June 28th wedding on April 10th, with an RSVP date of June 11th. So they’ll have about two months to RSVP. Our caterer wants a final head count on the 18th I believe, so that gives us about a week to call the non respondants. I think this is more than enough time to RSVP.

As far as where to print your invitation suite.. I had a friend design ours. She printed everything form JackPrints. Not sure if you can order premade invites on that site or not, but the quality was amazing. And the price wasn’t too bad.  


Post # 11
1674 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

We are getting married on 9/6

Ordering invitations by 5/30

Mailing them on 7/6

Requesting RSVP by 8/6

Post # 12
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


msfreemis:  what do you mean “little cards and envelopes” – do you mean the RSVP cards?

Post # 14
6527 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

msfreemis:  Where are you ordering them from and how long does it take to receive them? If its a few weeks- order them asap. I ordered from Storkie.com and had my invites in less than 2 weeks. I prep’d them to be mailed. Since your wedding is Oct. 19, I would mail the invites sometime in Aug. with an rsvp date of Sept. 26-30. This gives you ample time to do your seating chart and call anyone who didn’t yet respond. 

Post # 15
2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


msfreemis:  IF you include the address, direction cards are no pretty irrelevant with the rise of GPS.  Unless you know there will be a detour that will impact typical driving directions, completely not needed.

Most people will say that registry cards are tacky and a no-no.  You really aren’t supose to ask for gifts.  Just make sure that your parents know where you are registered.  That said, as a guest, if you are registered, I like them.

Accomidation cards are only necessary if you have a large amount of out of town guests and you are providing a room block.  People will need to know where these things are.

RSVPs are pretty typical.  If you need numbers for venders, and don’t want to over or under pay, RSVPs are a must.  If you don’t, you will either be stuck with more or less food than you need.

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