- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I have such a long way to go, but I got to thinking about invitations today. Part of the reason we have had a long engagement is because of logistics, but also so we had plenty of time to save, find bargains, DIY, etc. So just in case we come across an amazing deal on invites, I want to be prepared to know roughly how many I might need, etc. We do have a fairly detailed guest list thought up (although some of it is still hypothetical this early on) and I’ve come across a few questions.
How did you bees divide invites up? Example 1: my Maid/Matron of Honor currently lives at home with her parents AND grandparents. Is it typically you send an invite to the parents and anyone who is over 18 gets their own? And since the parents and grandparents live there also does each set get their own? And… well, while that might be tradition, would it be RUDE to include the parents/grandparents on one? I’m all for bucking tradition if it seems practical to, but I never want to come off as rude. I was leaning towards Maid/Matron of Honor getting her own (because she’ll probably have a SO at that point who WONT live at “the compound” and he’ll be invited, but also she MAY have her own place at that point) and then one going to her parents/grandparents. Thoughts?
Example 2: What did you do about serious couples who don’t live together? I thought etiquette stated here that they each get their own. Dirty Delete and JS have been dating for over two years, but Dirty Delete lives in philly and JS lives in my hometown. Granted, this could change between now and then, but if they are still in this situation, would you send an invite to just one with both names on it? Dirty Delete is my closer friend, and while I don’t see this happening, what if they broke up? Then they both have to come alone (not much room for random plus ones) and it could be awkward. This same situation could apply to a couple of my friends that im inviting. As much as I like their SO’s and consider them friends, my CLOSE friends have priority to me.
What do you bees think? Also, please correct me if I’m wrong on what etiquette states!
I’m also curious… did you/are you going to follow etiquette to a T? Or did you go non traditional?