(Closed) Invitations – who to list!?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I listed my DH’s parents even though they didn’t pay. You have quite a different situation though. I would opt for not adding anyone, but if yoiu want to add your dad you could do that (and your mom if that’s something you want to do as well maybe like the late Jane Doe) and then you could put his dad and step mom.

Post # 4
2474 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Since you guys are paying for the majority with a bit of help from your dad, you can go a few ways without it being complicated….technically you only need to list the HOSTS of the wedding (you, Fiance, and dad if you want).

Since FI’s parents are not paying and the mom isnt coming it would be weird to list her if she isnt there (ppl will think the stepmom is mom), and if you dont list her ppl may think she has passed on (if they dont know FI’s family) just all kinds of drama…

option a:


daughter of mr. scotssdale (and if you wish to say … the late Mrs. scottsdale)


Fiance of scottsdalebride

request the honor of your presence at their joining of hands….. blah blah….

Option b:

Mr. Scottsdale

requests the honour of your presence at the marriage of his daughter

Scottsdalebride to

Fiance of Scottsdalebride

at ……………………

option c:

Scottsdalebride and fiance of scottsdalebride

request the honour of your presence on their day of marriage

please join together with our families on ………………………….


Im actually going through this right now (I just got my notification from zazzle my invites are being shipped today lol) but basically Im expecting FI’s parents to possibly be upset they arnt on the invite, however they are not hosting this event in any way. NOW, that isnt the exact reason we chose not to have parents on it (we did the join with families) the issue is theres so many freakin names (stepparents etc) it looked totally RIDICULOUS, and didnt fit. I included only the needed info and still putting in the names bumped like 2-3 lines of my reception info to the back of the invite and well…sorry, thats not happening.

so…. as Fiance and I are paying the full bill, we just have our names. I do have a print of a combination of all the typical ediq that Im prepared to show FIL’s if they say anything. They are used to seeing names, but they have to understand that those parents either paid for, or helped pay the majority of the bill…..


Post # 5
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

tough one: his parents are pitching in, my folks are gone, so we didnt want to discredit anyone, but we just felt it easiest to say:

The honor of your presence is requested at the marriage of……

this was simplest, but we did wrack our brains a bit over the wording. I think there is a martha stewart out there with links on who is paying etc. and what to say that was helpful. but we gave up 🙂

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