(Closed) invite a coworker that recently quit?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would probably invite her but rescind the offer about the baby…she probably won’t come then…

Post # 4
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Invite her and make it clear that she can’t bring the baby. She will most likely decline, which allows you to avoid being rude without her actually coming to the wedding 🙂

Post # 5
46600 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t invite her. You said you haven’t seen her in 3 months and are unlikely to do so in the future. You don’t want children at the wedding and she wants to bring her baby.

I just don’t see her as making the list of close personal friends.

Post # 6
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I too am having a 50 person wedding and I am inviting a co-worker who recently quit… but this co-worker and I are still close friends so as it stands, I have no issued inviting her.

Like others have suggested, I would invite her, but make it clear that she cant bring her baby. Either she will make the effort to come minus the baby (thus rekindling the friendship), or she will decline and you guys will more than likely stay distant. Put the ball in her court.

Post # 7
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you’re not particularly close with her anymore then there’s really no sense in inviting her. Even if you choose to, you absolutely do NOT have to make an exception for her baby. I can’t believe she even had the balls to say that. It’s not like she’s a close family member with a baby (who I personally still wouldn’t make an exception for), she’s an ex coworker. No special treatment just because she popped out a kid.

Post # 8
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would say to still invite her, but she still cannot bring the baby because it wouldnt be fair to the other people who didnt bring their children because of your no children policy.

Post # 9
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you already told her you would invite her and her husband is asking, I would invite her. If you  really don’t want her baby there you could apologize for any misunderstanding and maybe she would get a sitter or maybe she wouldn’t come. If you’re just worried that others will be upset if her baby is allowed but other children aren’t- it’s not uncommon for couples to make exceptions for young nursing babies, but it’s certainly your right not to. Try to keep in mind, you were a lot closer just a few short months ago, and those first few months being a new mom are very isolating. Obviously you’re not obligated to invite her just to give her a social outlet, but since you already did invite her and her husband obviously remembers that as well, she’s may really be looking forward to a night out.

I would call her, tell her that unfortunately since you can’t allow other children you can’t allow hers without risking hurt feelings. Then tell her you hope she can get a sitter to join you but that you will understand if she can’t. Personally I find it very rude to uninvite guests unless drastic changes happen in your relationship or in your wedding plans.

Post # 10
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldnt invite her and if she ever asks you again you can be honest about it.. or tell her that you had to make cuts because family had to come first.

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