(Closed) Invite a friend but not her husband???

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@Earlybride: I would invite both of them. This whole situation sounds really petty. He made an assumption, it’s not the end of the world. I would be more upset at the fact the your Fiance posts personal things on FB without consulting you about it. Sorry, this comes off as snarky but it’s just what I would do if I were in your situation.

Post # 4
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Yes, either both or neither. 

ETA: I would invite both. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I agree with everything except the first sentence. You say they live far away and you never see them, why do you want to invite them anyway? Unless of course you talk a lot online or on the phone, in which case yes, invite both of them.

I agree, your Fiance should not be posting passive agressive statements on FB about his relationship with you. Also, it sounds like your friend’s husband has cheated or tried to cheat with FSIL? Not sure why Future Sister-In-Law didn’t tell her anyway, before any of this situation happened, but I guess that’s really nothing to do with you anyway and it’s not your place.. just odd.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

invite both of them if you want her there – it was your Fiance that was putting it out there that he was unhappy and if you hear it enough times people do want to scream at you if you are that unhappy then leave, he was honest enough to speak up when others roll their eyes and judge you silently.

and as far as dating your Future Sister-In-Law in the past –  it was years ago, if your Future Sister-In-Law has no issue then its none of your business

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

if you are close enough with this friend to want her at your wedding, i would invite her and her husband.  unless your Fiance is strongly against it and doesn’t want them at his wedding?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Invite both or invite neither. I wouldn’t attend a wedding if you didn’t invite my husband and I would probably hold against you regardless of your reasons for not inviting him.

Honestly, I would be more upset with your Fiance for putting your private business on a social networking site than I would be at this guy for commenting on it. Its not like this guy said out of no where “dump her”. He was commenting on something your Fiance said that more than likely led him to make the comment.

Edit: This is why I am super careful about what I am posting on FB, and why I have lectured my nieces to no end about being careful not to put family or personal business out there on the world wide web. It aways seems to come back to bite you on the bum!

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