Post # 1
Many of my girlfriends are married and have hyphenated names. In some cases I don’t really know their husbands that well. When addressing the STD’s and invites I was going to go with naming my girlfriend first (cuz that’s who I really want to be there and feel I’m inviting) with her hyphenated name and then her husband. Ex: Miss Piggy-The Frog and Kermit The Frog. But is this the proper way to do this? Txs!
Post # 3
I’m not certain what’s proper but I just wanted to say I love the names you chose for your example. 🙂
Post # 4
It’s not the proper way. The male should always go first. It should read
Mr. Kermit the Frog and Mrs. (first name)Piggy – The Frog
Post # 5
@mwitter80: really??? ugh. bummer. it feels so weird to put the guy I don’t even know first.
Post # 6
I did it both ways depending on the couple, at least for people around my own generation. If I knew the guy well and not the significant other, i put him first. if I knew her well and not him, I put her name first. It just =made sense for my friends. As far as family and my older generation invites, I was more formal.
Post # 7
@mwitter80: Bless you for getting this right! Most people make the “it’s always ladies first” mistake (that being a rule that applies only in a very narrow range of circumstances!)
But note that in formal address, the first name is not used; and outside the U.S. in English-speaking countries (that is, in Canada, U.K, Australia, and New Zealand), outside envelopes are correctly addressed to the lady of the house only.
So, on the envelope it would be “Ms Eloise Piggy-LeFrog”; and on the invitation itself or the inner envelope it would be “Mr LeFrog and Ms. Piggy-LeFrog”.
Also, it isn’t automatically “Mrs” just because the lady is married. Traditional nineteenth- and twentieth-century usage was that “Mrs” was only used with the husband’s surname; and “Miss” was used with the maiden name, regardless of whether the lady was married. Nowadays it’s a free-for-all, with Ms added in to the mix to, supposedlly, simplify things by being a one-size-fits-all title for ladies regardless of marital status or name used.