(Closed) Invite ALL children?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s entirely up to you!  You decide the cut-off point and stick to it – if you don’t want to invite kids you’ve not met, then that’s fair enough.  To an extent I think age comes into it.  If they’re 5 then maybe it’s more reasonable to expect you to invite them than if they’re 15.  But if you don’t want to then just explain you’re only inviting family children or whatever.  Your colleagues should understand.

Post # 4
Member
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Whatever works for you.  We just invited family members’ children, but not most of our friends’…with the exception of the flower girl and children of friends that are also friends with my future stepson (so he will have someone to hang out with!)

Post # 5
Member
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We invited all children who are family members, and a few very close family friends with young children.

I can think of a few parents that were invited without their children, if they make a big deal about it, we will let them bring the kids i guess.

Post # 6
Member
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s up to you! I would avoid inviting some, but not all children in the same “group” – like don’t invite some nephews, but not others. But I think it is completely ok to invite kids you know, but then leave your co-workers children off. 

We haven’t decided if we are inviting my co-workers yet (they didn’t get an save-the-date) but if we do invite them, we won’t invite their kids. But we are inviting all kids in our family and several kids of our friends. 

 

Post # 7
Member
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s entirely up to you!  You decide the cut-off point and stick to it – if you don’t want to invite kids you’ve not met, then that’s fair enough.  To an extent I think age comes into it.  If they’re 5 then maybe it’s more reasonable to expect you to invite them than if they’re 15.  But if you don’t want to then just explain you’re only inviting family children or whatever.  Your colleagues should understand.

Post # 8
Member
9551 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it comes down you your guests and your willingness to ruffle feathers. If your guests won’t mind that only some kids are invited, then it’s no big deal. If people will be upset that some kids are invited and others aren’t, then you have to decided which is more important – having fewer kids or ruffling more feathers. Either option is okay, you just haev to decide which is more important for you.

Post # 9
Member
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our original plan was to allow family member children, all of which will be there for the ceremony and then taken home, so the reception would remain adult-only. But two different friends have said something along the lines of how excited their young daughters were to see me in my dress….I didn’t approach it during those conversations but I do need to address it. Gonna be sticky.

As far as work guests though, I would think that unless they are your close friends that happen to also be coworkers, they’d understand an adult-reception invitation?

Post # 10
Member
9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Totally acceptable to invite whoever you want, it is YOUR party =). 

We are going with children we are related to only.  And no kids from friends, even if we are close with them b/c I think it is fair this way. And for coworkers, I am not even sure if we are inviting the husbands/wives of the coworkers, definately not their kids.  No space!  I picked a venue that could hold 200 so I can only invite 200. 

I have heard of weddings without any kids invited at all, and this may be offensive to some people, but it is your party and if they don’t like it, they can not show up.  You are paying per person most of the time and if this couple brings their 2 kids it will cost you double to have them there!

Post # 11
Member
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Its best if you invite children in ‘tiers’ or circles.

For example: The only children invited to our wedding are children of FAMILY members… mostly cousins’ kids.  The exception are the twins who have lived next door to my parents who are 12  years old and have known us for as long as they can remember.

Post # 12
Member
1434 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@smiles4jo:  God no…..We didn’t invite children at all but my bf who got married 5 onths after me invited her friends kids and no one from works kids…..whatever name you write on the invite is your own business. Kids coming or not shouldn’t be OPEN for all. The same way you give people a +1 is how you should invite the kids….I see no reason why anyone should get mad. You have have an extra ### people just because everyone has kids:(

The topic ‘Invite ALL children?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors