(Closed) Invite Bridesmaids' Parents

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@samostov:  no, I don’t think you need to. I am inviting one of my bridesmaids parents but no others. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I would only invite friends’ families that you’re super close with. We’re inviting a few parents of dear friends.  I certainly wouldn’t feel obligated just cause they’re your BM’s parents.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s not required. 2 of my bm are fsil’s so obviously their parents will be there, have known one my whole life so her dad and step mom are invited, but that’s it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think there’s any need to invite them unless you’re close. All of my BM’s parents were invited, but that is because two were my cousins (so their parents are my aunt/uncle), my best friend growing up (so they were like a second set of parents to me), and my SIL (so obviously her mom is my MIL). But if you don’t have a relationship, I wouldn’t.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@samostov:  Not if they are adults. Adults are independent, they do not automatically get an invite to things their parents are invited to, and by the same token their parents don’t get invites to things they are invited to.

The cruel mother doesn’t need to know that you’ve invited the other parents who you are close to.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@samostov:  Don’t stress about it. There is no etiquette demanding you invite your BMs mom. There is nothing saying you have to invite everyone you’ve known since you were 5. Finally, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong in excluding someone who was mean to you! Don’t invite her. 

I’ve known my Maid/Matron of Honor since high school, her mom is cold but not mean and I have no intention of inviting her. Never even crossed my mind. My parents were always SUPER kind to my Maid/Matron of Honor, my mom would even buy her Christmas presents every year, and she’s not inviting them to her wedding. No one thinks it’s weird or rude at all. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@samostov:  You could avoid the dilemma by not inviting the other parents. Or if are you so close to your other friends’ parents that you can’t imagine them not coming. But that means they’re your friends in their own right, and no different from when you invite one friend’s brother/sister (because you’re close) but not everyone’s brother/sister.

By The Way, something else I just noticed: if by future sister-in-law you mean your brother’s fiancee, there’s no need to invite her parents. The parents won’t actually be in your family even after they marry. (Of course if by Future Sister-In-Law you mean the bridesmaid is your fiance’s sister, then they’ll be there anyway!)

Post # 11
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Newbee

I’ve read that etiquette says that the parents of the bridal party should be invited to the wedding. But, I’m not doing that, and I don’t think most people do anymore. (I also read that etiquette says to pay for the lodging of bridal party members who are traveling from out of town to attend the wedding).

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