- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Thanks to anyone who takes time to read this or even comment lol. Sorry its so dang long!
My big brother, who hasn’t dated (to our knowledge) since he was 18 or 19 (he’s 34 now), recently got together with a woman he met online. They have been dating for about 6 months now and they appear to be somewhat serious. She lives the next state up from us, and they have made it a point to visit with one another once a month. He brought her over in December for us to meet her. She seemed quiet and very aloof, but we passed this off as shyness. I, and my family, were more than nice towards her…asked questions, offered food and drinks, tried to make her feel at ease as best we could. I was totally happy for my bro and really excited to get to know his gf.
Well…a few weeks after I met her, she deleted me and blocked my from facebook (gotta love fb drama!). I was stumped, as I had only said nice things to her and complements. We barely spoke beyond her visit and pciture comments on facebook (which were all very cordial). She sent me an extremely lengthy message, saying that I had offended her very badly for a recent status I posted. I was annoyed with my office manager that day and had come home and posted something saying, “Working with scatterbrained people is hard… :(” She told me that this really offended her and hurt her feelings because aparently, for some reason, it reminds her of her brother. She went on to say that they don’t talk anymore but never explained beyond that. So, I’m 100% baffled as to her over 6 paragraph message about her family issues somehow connecting to my manager (who I never named).
So, my bro is very serious about her and would like to see wedding bells for them. She, on the other hand, had no problem telling my parents that “If I think something is even slightly wrong in our relationship, I’m going to break it off with your son.” She’s also criticized our religion openly…which was pretty awkward. (I share this religion with my fiance as well, and we will be getting married this way…traditional Catholic Nuptial Mass).
Now, a few months later, all but one member of my immediate family dislike her because of these oddities. No one hates her, not even me lol, but she’s just really strange and doesn’t rub off well on people at all.
Wedding invite time has come upon us, and I’m not sure what to do regarding her. (Just to make you aware, our wedding is in a completely different state than where she lives). Our original plan was to have no plus-ones because of financial constraints. My Fiance thinks, however, that we should invite her because not doing so could hurt my bro’s relationship with us. Even though my family has been super delicate and respectful of his decisions, I’m sure he knows that some of us don’t really care for her. My Fiance said that not inviting her could cause such a strain between us that I may not get to see any future little nieces or nephews.
Keeping in mind that 1) Our religion is one that she doesn’t approve of.. 2) Both families, including FI’s are “traditional” Catholics (she has random outbursts of her opnion on our faith that most of them would find slightly offensive) 3) Majority of my family doesn’t especially like her 4) My bro is in love with her 5) Her special dislike for me………
What do you guys think? Invite or no invite? Im completely open to hear anything you got! I’m not overly opposed to inviting her, I’m just not sure how awkward it would be at our 100 max wedding with mostly Catholic people there.
Sorry for the long rant!!!! It probably sounds like a bunch of family jargon >< I apologize…I had to vent though lol.