(Closed) Invite Bro’s Angsty Gf?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m generally in favor of “Invite siblings’ SO’s to keep the peace.” And that remains true for this case. I think your Fiance is right that not inviting her will cause more harm than good.

Plus remember, inviting her doesn’t necessarily mean she will come. If she does, you have to assume she’ll shut up and behave at your wedding for the sake of your brother. No harm, no foul. If she starts to go off about something, have someone unconnected available to shut her up. 🙂 Lol. I mean assuming she plans to come, just give your brother a casual, “Hey, if she’s not okay with our ceremony then maybe she just wants to come for the reception” and maybe he’ll pass it along to her if it’s well-received? Not sure the type of relationship you guys have. I mean I’d hope that she could sit through a ceremony regardless of how she feels about your religion.

Post # 4
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@catalinaislandbabe:  That’s a tough pickle to be in and sorry that you’re in such a situation.  I would just invite her to be civil and cordial despite what her views are on your religion and to avoid unnecessary drama with your brother.  Sadly, she may be your sister-in-law whether you like it or not so there’s no point of fighting.  Plus, the more you resist, the more your brother might be inclined to be with her… something like reverse psychology?  In any case, what if she doesn’t go?  It’ll be good for you and at least you can say that you invited her.  

Post # 5
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AmeliaBedelia:  Good point about if she starts mouthing off.  If she does that, no one is going to look bad except her.

Post # 6
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think you have to invite her. Unfortunately, with an immediate family member’s SO, they should be invited no matter how bad they are. Not inviting her could cause a huge rift in your family. Maybe talk to your brother and see if you two can somehow get on better terms before the wedding? 

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