Post # 1
Hi Bees, I have a dilemma!
I’m so torn as to whether or not I should invite my co-workers to my wedding. First, let me start by saying that I have two jobs (one full-time, one part-time), so this dilemma is stressing me out twice as much!
At my full-time job, there is only a handful of people I would consider inviting (my boss, the company’s owner, and some other closer co-workers), and at my part-time job, I really just want to invite my boss and another girl I have become incredibly close with. Also, at my part-time, there are a couple of (younger) girls who constantly make comments about coming to my wedding (meaning, they hint that they want to come). I don’t want to offend or disappoint anyone (which I know I will), so this is really stressing me out.
Can I get any input on how brides handled or are handling inviting co-workers to their wedding?
And also, what about spouses/significant others?! Ugh, the stress!!!
Post # 2
if you are friends with anyone outside of the office and/or want to invite someone, invite them.
i wouldn’t invite the whole office except for one person, but if you have a handful of people you want there, then yes invite them.
if anyone is in a relationship(dating – no matter how long, engaged, married) they should be invited with their SO.
you don’t have to write +1 or and guest, write the person’s name so there is no confusion.
also, just because people hint at your wedding that they want an invite, doesn’t mean they are automatically invited. don’t invite them because they want you to, invite them bc you want them there.
Post # 3
I agree with ajillity81. My fiance and I are only inviting coworkers who we are friend with outside of work and have met both bride and groom. We went through a list of people we want to invite and ask ourselves “will we see this person after we leave our current work place?” If the answer is no, they do not get an invite. Hope this helps & happy planning!
Post # 4
Generally speaking, it is better to separate your work and personal life. An easy line to draw is to invite only those co-workers with whom you have a social life outside work. That doesn’t include going for lunch together, drinks after work etc. Inviting your boss or the owner of the company can put them in an awkward position where they might feel obligated to buy you a gift, even if they have no desire to attend your wedding.
Post # 5
ajillity81 : bride2b2017 : julies1949 :
The three of you make excellent points. I keep my full-time job strictly professional. It’s my career and I keep my personal life out of it with the exception of maybe some wedding chat on a coffee break. So I do think I have made my decision not to invite anyone from my full-time job. Although I want to invite my boss, you are right – it could be awkward, and I really don’t need that at my wedding or at work.
As for my part-time job, I’m much closer to the group of girls there; if I could invite them all, I would. However, I’m slightly closer to a few over the others. I suppose I’ll figure this out. I have plenty of time; my wedding isn’t until next December.
Thank you for your input(s)!