(Closed) Invite Confusion

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think it’s rude to not invite all of them, especially if you don’t know them.

Post # 4
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@LBalazi:  I would only invite the cousins I knew/wanted at my wedding. Because you have so many, I definitely don’t think this is an “all or nothing” kind of situation.

Post # 5
380 posts
Helper bee

I’m in the same boat. My dad is a child on 19 (woah!) and I have atleast 100 cousins/second cousins. I don’t know all of them and they live all over the country. To make matters easier though, my parents divorced when I was 8. So, I probably won’t invite any of them!!

SO and I have a rule of thumb that we found online, I think it’s a great idea!!!

ETA: The one that says “have you seen/spoke to him/her in the past year” has a NO underneath that’s supposed to be linked to”Would his/her presence make your wedding more fun?”

Post # 6
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@LBalazi:  No it is not rude to invite guests with whom you have a personal relationship regardless of “level” of blood relation.

The only thing etiquette says about who must be invited, is that social units be invited together.  As long as you adhere to that, you are golden from an etiquette perspective.

Post # 7
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No some people will view being invited, when you aren’t close, as a gift grab.  I can’t imagine your guest list.  My dad had five brothers and I didn’t invite one of my uncles because I know they had money problems, and we aren’t that close.  

Have you been invited to all the weddings of everyone of your cousins?  I’m quite sure everyone will understand.

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