Post # 1
Finalizing my guest list is quite a job!!
My dad has 13 brothers and sisters.. I am inviting ALL my aunt and uncles ( pretty sure majority won’t make as we live across the us )
I have over 50 cousins majority married with children – I want to invite the individuals that I know better but do not want to be rude. Do I have to invite ALL my cousins if I invite some? Some cousins I have never met or don’t remember meeting, or have met just a few times
What would you do??
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s rude to not invite all of them, especially if you don’t know them.
Post # 4
@LBalazi: I would only invite the cousins I knew/wanted at my wedding. Because you have so many, I definitely don’t think this is an “all or nothing” kind of situation.
Post # 5
I’m in the same boat. My dad is a child on 19 (woah!) and I have atleast 100 cousins/second cousins. I don’t know all of them and they live all over the country. To make matters easier though, my parents divorced when I was 8. So, I probably won’t invite any of them!!
SO and I have a rule of thumb that we found online, I think it’s a great idea!!!
ETA: The one that says “have you seen/spoke to him/her in the past year” has a NO underneath that’s supposed to be linked to”Would his/her presence make your wedding more fun?”
Post # 6
@LBalazi: No it is not rude to invite guests with whom you have a personal relationship regardless of “level” of blood relation.
The only thing etiquette says about who must be invited, is that social units be invited together. As long as you adhere to that, you are golden from an etiquette perspective.
Post # 7
No some people will view being invited, when you aren’t close, as a gift grab. I can’t imagine your guest list. My dad had five brothers and I didn’t invite one of my uncles because I know they had money problems, and we aren’t that close.
Have you been invited to all the weddings of everyone of your cousins? I’m quite sure everyone will understand.
Post # 8
Thanks Ladies…I didn’t think the invitation list would be so difficult!!