(Closed) Invite coworkers?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite co-workers?
    Open invite to all of them after certain time : (7 votes)
    27 %
    None of them : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Only invite a couple to wedding and reception : (15 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I realize that you are paying for it by yourselves, but with such a small company it might cause hurt feelings that some were invited and not others.

    Post # 4
    6065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    This is a hard one! I can understand why you are stumped.

    I personally would not do the invite after a certain time…I understand that would make it possible for you to include everyone, but I just feel that if someone is invited to your wedding they shouldn’t be excluded from the ceremony and dinner.

    I voted for inviting a select few. I imagine your co-workers know you have limited space (or you could let them know you have limited space)- and they would hopefully understand that you are closer to the other co-workers than you are to them.

    OR you could explain to all of them how sorry you are that you can’t include them. I don’t know how comfortable you are doing this, but I’d probably just tell them all that you care about them, but you had limited space and budget concerns, and you had to prioritize family.


    Post # 5
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think that you should give the invite to all of them. The people that you are close to should come while the others would appreciate the invite but I wouldn’t think that they would really come… But then again they may all show up. I really don’t think that you should invite a selected few because after your wedding you are still going to have to deal with these people.  

    Post # 7
    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @AngieM30: How casual is your wedding that people can show up?  I would feel mighty strange about walking into a reception after dinner has been served and partying has started.  But that is just because I have never been to a wedding that I wasn’t actually invited to the ceremony and reception.  What are weddings like in your social circle?

    Post # 9
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Our personal rule is that we’re only inviting coworkers we spend time with outside of the office/newsroom. If we consider them real life friends and would still hangout with them if one of us left our company, then they’re in.

    Post # 10
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I inivited my whole department. Most declined. I’m not that close with all of them, but I felt bad about inviting some with out the others. Let us know how you your RSVPs work out.

    For future brides.. I did a 2 RSVP thing. I did close family and friends should RSVP 2 months before, (I don’t mind telling them there is a B list of coworkers), and my coworkers had a RSVP date of 1 month before. It was a bit of a scramble getting answers from the first batch, but then I just hand delivered all the invites at work 3 weeks before my 2nd RSVP date.

    Post # 12
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I only invited one co-worker from a staff of about 8, but out of the whole staff, she was the only one with whom I had spent time with outside of work.  Everyone at work was pretty understanding, and I promised to show everyone pictures later (they were genuinely excited about the pictures).

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