Post # 1
So I’m soon-to-be-engaged like paying off the ring is all that’s left. Since I know it will be soon I’ve started thinking about all the first things you think about…venue, dates, colors, and in my case wedding party and who to invite. My major issue at the moment is I’m thinking about not inviting any of my “close” friends from high school or college that I’ve know for a few years or a lifetime. With where I am in my life now I just don’t need the drama they are sure to bring and would inevitably cause with any of the girls being in my bridal party.
Thoughts? Did anyone else have to do anything like this?
Post # 2
First of all I’d say figure out your budget, that will give you an idea of how many guests you can do in the first place, plus it will also give an idea of the number of BMs you should consider for two reasons. A) if your budget and plan is for a wedding of 20 guests having 10 BMs may make things a bit lopsided, and B) yes helping your BMs out with their wedding expenses (dresses, hair, etc) is not mandatory it is a really nice gesture and the cost would have to be factored in (ie, 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses cost far less than 8).
If you don’t want to invite friends from your past because of the possible drama that’s your right, but I didn’t want there to be no one from my past at my wedding. They’re kinda like your family in that respect, crazy, annoying, and a pain at times, but they’re also a part of your life (past or present).
For now I’d say DON’T MAKE ANY COMMITMENTS one way or the other, no matter the pressure people may put you under to commit. It takes a second to commit to inviting/or not inviting someone and a huge mess later if you change your mind.