Post # 1
My fiancé and I have decided to change our wedding from a big celebration in December 2013 to a small intimate ceremony and dinner in July 2013. We are inviting only close friends and family.
My Dad has 8 siblings (all married, plus kids) and as I’m kind of close with most of them, I am only really close with my MOH’s family (my Aunt, Uncle, cousin). Thinking about not inviting them makes me sad, but I feel if I invite them then I have to invite my other Aunts and Uncles plus my 19 other cousins.
What do I do?
Post # 3
My opinion is that it’s YOUR day and you should invite who you want there 🙂
Post # 4
We invited only some aunts and uncles and only some cousins. It’s fine to invite just those who you are close with.
Post # 5
I think in this case, since it will be a very small event and you are inviting them partly because your Maid/Matron of Honor is clearly invited, it is ok not to invite the rest of your siblings. There are a LOT of them and it sounds like you are not close to the rest.
IF you were inviting a few more of the siblings, I would say you need to invite the others – this is what we call inviting in circles (all aunts/uncles. or all cousins, or all great aunts/uncles, etc.)
Post # 6
I think it depends a lot on family dynamics. In my family, you can’t invite some aunts/uncles and not others without starting a huge family feud, same for cousins. If the dynamics in your family are different, then invite just who you want to be there.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think you are fine as long as it really is a small wedding. If it gets back to the rest of the family that you have 20 friends there, that would be bad.