(Closed) Invite etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 5
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Britt214:  I would put Mr. and Mrs. it’s a pain but it’ll look nicer than just their names. thats just me though!

Post # 6
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you use Mr. and Mrs. You dont includetrue woman’s name — Mr. And Mrs. John Doe.

If you want to include the woman’s name (and a lot of younger folks hate losing their name) it should be Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe. The and indicates marriage. Single dating or engaged couples do not get an and and go on different lines.

 

With the Dr., higher title goes first so if it’s the woman – Dr. Jane Smith-Doe and Mr. John Doe.

Post # 7
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9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here…

Although you may be having an Informal, perhaps even Casual Wedding

Technically a Wedding is a FORMAL SERIOUS EVENT in life.

Hence the need for formal types of address

So ya…

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe = Married

Mr. John Doe & Ms. Jane Doe* = Married

Dr. Susan Smith-Black & Mr. Jack Black = Married

Mr. & Mrs. Albert King & Family = The Household

Ms. Cathry White & Mr. Bob Brown = Living Together / Common Law

Mr. Robert Jones = Single Man

Miss Diane Jackson = Single Woman **

Ms. Roberta Green & Guest = Single Woman who can bring a Guest ***

NOTES

* A married woman is never Mrs. Jane Doe… that would imply that she is widowed.  Ms. Jane Doe is what is appropriate for either Divorced women, or those who want to be known by their first names and not that of their Husbands

** Miss or Ms. is the correct title for Single Women.

As well, if a couple is dating but not living together, then the proper Etiqutte is to send Invites to both their homes individually. 

*** If you don’t know the name of the Date they’ll be bringing (ie you have a Bridesmaid who isn’t going steady with anyone… then it is permissible to just address it to them with & Guest.  And the & Guest bit means they can literally bring whomever they choose… so a regular Boyfriend or Best Friend, someone they’ve just met invited along for the Wedding, or if they wish their BFF or their mother… WHOMEVER they want to spend the Weekend with… it is not for you to judge).

Hope this helps,

PS… there is all sorts of different permiations of how to address WHOM (Drs, Professors, Judges, Senators etc) IF you need help on this stuff, just ask.

 

Post # 8
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@This Time Round:  This isn’t totally correct. You should never use & for unwmarrid couples (they should go on separate lines — & indicates marriage). Also if not Mr. And Mrs. The the woman or higher title goes first:

 

So, unmarried living together should be:

 

Ms. Jane Smith

 

Mr. John Doe

 

Address

 

Eta: crane is a fantastic resource for all of your questions — 

http://blog.crane.com/2012/02/03/wedding-etiquette-how-to-address-your-envelopes/ 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 9
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9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@classyashley:  Huh?

Exactly where did I say what you are claiming?

As well, if a couple is dating but not living together, then the proper Etiqutte  is to send Invites to both their homes individually. 

And

Ms. Cathy White & Mr. Bob Brown = Living Together / Common Law

Socially, a couple that is living together in common law is treated as a married couple.

Although IF one wishes to send one invite to an Engaged Couple who aren’t living together (not the best of Etiquette) they could send it as:

Ms. Jane Smith

Mr. John Doe

as you have mentioned, ladies first*, listed one below the other.

*Normally Ladies first, but if it is thought to be an issue with the Invite going to the Man’s address (home) with his name not appearing on the first line then it is acceptable to list his name first.

Hope that helps,

 

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