(Closed) Invite Etiquette – Destination Wedding/ Reception in Home State – Please help!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1084 posts
Bumble bee

Our venue only fit 50 max. So if 10 declined, it made a difference in inviting other friends that we wanted there but didn’t fit.

we sent out the invites in “levels” of importance….each set/level was sent out at different times (each level was sent earlier) and had a different RSVP date (Earlier).

level 1: bridal party/immediate family

level 2: close friends/family/their guests 

level 3: flaky family we felt we were obligated to invite but we were 99% they would decline (and they did)

Level 4: the waiting list: the remainder of our friend….anyone who declined in level 3 left open seats for people in level 4.

we knew that people in level 3 would decline….but we knew if we didn’t invite them it would create drama. But we couldn’t risk inviting people in level 4 and 3 and then the venue had no space to for everyone.

it worked out well for us!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  BookTea.
Post # 3
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

For my destination wedding and at home reception I chose a vintage old world travel theme. I ordered invitations for our reception (very simple- blue with some scrollwork and wax seals) then I handmade matching vintage wooden luggage tags with an invitation to our ceremony and attached it to the reception invitation using old world metal keys- it worked out great! Good luck with your planning!!

Post # 4
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’d make a decision up front on who you want at the wedding in Napa and who you would prefer to see in New York/who may be unable to attend the ceremony in Napa. Like BookTea suggested, you can use levels or tiers to help you decide this. That way you won’t worry about all 250 people showing up in Napa. 

Post # 5
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Definitely do not inviete everyone to Napa.


You’re having two events, you need two invites.

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