(Closed) Invite Ettiquette Help, Por Favor!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
295 posts
Helper bee

1. I would only invite your managers if you are close with them. I invited two people from my department, but they are people I hang out with outside of work.

2. I know you aren’t close with them, but I’d send each adult their own invitation if you plan on inviting them. You don’t necessarily have to invite them, but if you do, send separate invites. 

Post # 4
46657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would only invite work colleagues (especially managers) if you socialize with them outside the workplace. There is absolutely nio obligation to invite people just because they work for the same organization/ are your bosses.

Post # 5
4040 posts
Honey bee

@kittymama426:  I think we’re related – ha ha!

Problem number 2:  “We haven’t talked to them … in years, and their communication has been spotty.” Me – saw and talked to them twice, in 10 years. 

“I also grew up fairly close with my uncle before he married …. aunt”. – Me too!

“My parents did receive a Christmas card from them.” Mine did – the first one in 10 years. An obvious attempt to remind us that they exist. The aunt also friend requested me on Facebook – I blocked her. My family has had the internet for 15 years; she has never tried to contact any of us, through the internet. We don’t even know her e-mail address. She didn’t request that my sister, become her friend, or is F/B friends with any of our other cousins.

“…all gestures that we are assuming came about because they heard of my upcoming wedding.” And mine is near an amusement park, we’re assuming their kids want to go to; their kids wouldn’t be invited to the wedding anyway. And we’re not interested in inviting guests, if that’s their primary reason for wanting to attend.

“Do we send an invite?” Don’t waste your time and money. You don’t want to see them there, probably your other relatives don’t want to see them, either. Luckily we have an uncle on the other side – with no communication – who’s also not invited.  

“(since they will most likely not even RSVP).” That’s what they did for my sister’s wedding. 250 invited, only 2 didn’t bother to RSVP – they acted like it never existed; no congratulatory e-mail, no card – nothing. Both Mom and I said they’d get an invitation to my wedding, over our dead bodies. Dad tried to protest, but realized you don’t reward that kind of behavior, by wasting another invitation.   




Post # 8
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@kittymama426:  1. Invite all managers. If they come great, if not that’s okay, but at least no hurt feelings on excluding anyone.


2. Your call on inviting the family but if you do, yes 1 invitation is more than enough

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