(Closed) Invite everyone from work except one person?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You really can’t invite everyone from work except one person, you could invite a group you were friends with and not the rest but leaving one out could be seen as bullying. 

As for your boss I would invite him if the ex-coworkers don’t like him I’m sure they can all be adults for one event

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If everyone but one person is invited that would be incredibly awkward for you at work. Your wedding is one day but you’ll have to continue to work with these people. I would go ahead and invite everyone…who knows that person may not like you either and won’t go.

I agree with jmbee…I’m sure everyone can be adults for a couple hours so go ahead and invite your boss.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

As long as you and your co-workers don’t bang on about your wedding at work, I don’t see why you should invite someone you don’t like. I assume the feeling is mutual so she won’t be checking the post for an invite. 

I would also invite my boss and former co-workers, I would never boycott a friend’s wedding or resent them, if they invited people I didn’t like. It’s their/your wedding. They don’t have to slow dance together and it’s not high school thank god. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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princesscake:  + 1 – I think this is the only way.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

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princesscake:  i was already going to say I thought you should invite her, but especially now that you say she doesn’t even know you don’t like her. She’s bound to find out and will be incredibly hurt if she’s the only one not invited. Chances are you won’t have time to really speak to her anyway, and it will stop a lot of potential awkwardness in the office later.

for the boss and the ex colleagues, invite them all if they’re your friends. You don’t need to have them sitting together and they’re unlikely to start fighting at your wedding!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

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princesscake: Why exactly don’t you like her? If she isn’t aware you dislike her then there obviously isn’t any mutual hatred there. Is she just annoying or has she actually wronged you in some way? It’s your wedding and at the end of the day you can invite whoever you want but I personally think the right thing to do would be to invite her. If need be you can just block her out on the day. As for the other people then invite them all if you want to and just sit them on separate tables away from each other and trust that they can all behave like adults and put their differences aside for one day and just help you celebrate you’re marriage.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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princesscake:  I don’t suppose there’s a way to NOT invite people from work?? Like, no one? This is why I like to keep work people separate from my personal life. Too sticky. If you must invite work people, definitely include the gal you don’t like.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I think you’d be a jerk to invite someone you hate and get a gift from her while she is all unaware. My suggestion to you would be to talk to this woman, and maybe work out why you don’t like her. Faking nice isn’t any better than being honest about your dislike of her. It’s actually worse.

Depending on why you hate her so maybe you can work on that relationship so it wont be awkward to invite her to the wedding, otherwise I would just tell her why you have issues with her and alleviate her disappointment in not being invited. As far as the ex coworkers and boss situation go, I agree with PPS, everyone should be able to play nice for a day. Good luck

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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princesscake:  You think 14 people all in on a secret would be able to keep it from the one person who’s not in on it? That’s just silly. You can’t invite 14 out of 15 people and expect that to not have repercussions at work. Whether I was the person left out or one of the ones invited, I would think it was shitty. That’s actually a good way to get at least a few of your current “friends” to start sympathizing with her instead. Invite them all or invite none. Or deal with the awkward situation that’s sure to result if you exclude one specific person.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t see a way around it. I’d definitely invite her. She’s bound to find out she was the only one excluded and it’s just going to cause even more problems. As others have said, you’re wedding is one day and afterwards you have to work with these people. 

Also, how big is your wedding? Chances are you won’t even really notice her. 

As far as the boss, I’d invite him. Everyone is adults right? In sure they can make it work for one night. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Definitely don’t exclude one person.  That’s just mean.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I would not invite anyone and if they asked afterwards, say that you decided to have a family only affair. Problem solved.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m friendly with a lot of people at work, but not inviting any of them. I like to keep my private life separate from work.

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