Invite Fiancé's Friend and wife or not?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 17
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You have forgiven her (very big of you) and SHE keeps bringing it up and essentially throwing it back in your face? That is messed up. You dont know what she is going to do or say to you, your husband or a guest. I wouldnt take the chance of her ruining your wedding day. Leave them home, it is her fault, not yours.

Post # 18
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

beesknees1216 :  “how it would be awkward for me to be her bridesmaid because of her history with him”

Not to derail the post but you were her bridesmaid? Why?

Post # 19
3190 posts
Sugar bee

The affair and obnoxious behavior aside, you said that you haven’t seen this couple for several years and that you’re considering inviting them in part because you heard they wanted to be at your wedding. I wouldn’t invite them, as it doesn’t sound like you’re close. The past history just makes it a double no.

Post # 21
11942 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

This should not even have to be a question.  Of course you don’t need to feel guilty about not inviting this couple. Whether there was a period of time when you tried to get past it is irrelevant. You are entitled to cut her out of your life at any time and for any reason. Even if the only reason is because you’ve since changed your mind.

You are under no obligation to apply the same standards to her as to your now Fiance. Anyway, more power to you because I could never have maintained such a “friendship” no matter what the circumstances were that led to the cheating years ago. 

Post # 22
1365 posts
Bumble bee

Nope. You took your Fiance back after he cheated. You don’t invite the woman he cheated with, period, in my opinion. 

Post # 23
4877 posts
Honey bee

I say hell no to inviting her. 

Post # 24
894 posts
Busy bee

Definitely not.

just out of curiosity, since they are recently married, did you go to their wedding? Were you and your Fiance invited?

Post # 25
1011 posts
Bumble bee

No.  Unequivocally no.  Your fiance should know better.

Post # 26
2670 posts
Sugar bee

Absolutely not!!!

Post # 27
12 posts
  • Wedding: June 2018

beesknees1216 :  to add to the chorus – hell no this woman shouldn’t be anywhere near your wedding! She sounds exactly the sort of woman who would just HAVE to say something awful just to steal attention from you. Keep her out!

Post # 28
2132 posts
Buzzing bee

NO! Fuck no. And I know you don’t want to come between your man and his friend, but maybe he shouldn’t have cheated on you, then there wouldn’t be an issue. No, no, no, they’re not invited. 

Post # 29
367 posts
Helper bee

No way would I invite them if I were you. I just wouldn’t feel comfortable having the woman my fiance cheated on me with at  our wedding. A) the affair B) you haven’t spoken to them in years. Not sure why either of them would be expecting an invite. You’re not obligated to invite them in any way.


Post # 30
2701 posts
Sugar bee

Well okkkk…it would be similarly awkward for you to look out among your guests and see her there all the while knowing she saw your husband naked. Excuse worked for her…it works for you too! No invitation. 

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