Invite Fiancé's Friend and wife or not?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 31
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Sugar Beekeeper

Not to mention, even OP’s fiancé has not so much as  spoken to this male “friend” for two years now. This is so not worth thinking about.

Just because you heard through the grapevine that they want to be invited, which by the way is rude in and of itself, does not mean you are under any pressure whatsoever to do so. 

Post # 32
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Helper bee

 Even if you disregard the history you have with this couple, you haven’t interacted with them in years, so why would you invite them?

Post # 33
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Helper bee

Double post

Post # 34
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Helper bee

All of the drama aside, there’s no need to invite a couple to your wedding who you haven’t interacted with in YEARS. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

EW to her comments. How obnoxious. This wouldn’t even be a question for me, you are SUCH a good fiance for even thinking about this though.. that being said, NOO. 

She thinks it would have been awkard for you to have been a bridesmaid because of her history with him? I think it’s awkward for her to attend your wedding after making those comments. 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper

beesknees1216 :  I’m a big-time peace-keeping bygones-be-bygones person and even I say no–do not invite this woman to your wedding. Too much is too much. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee

This woman sounds like a whole other level of crazy. She has an affair with your Fiance, you be the bigger person and forgive her, she then continues to make snide little comments to you about seeing him naked, that she KNOWS would make you uncomfortable and hurt. That to me sounds like she is asserting ‘ownership’ over him, like ‘I know him better than you do’ sort of vibe… THEN wants to go to your wedding? OH HELL NO!

If I were her there is no way I would want to go to your wedding, I would be so embarrassed. 

Post # 40
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

beesknees1216 :  I would never have forgiven the cheating in the first place, but I’m guessing this was early in your relationship with Fiance, and you’ve sorted things out.

Anyway, a big fat NO! When FI’s friend started dating the woman Fiance cheated with, the friend had to expect it would affect his friendship with your Fiance somewhat. And one of the effects is he doesn’t get an invite to your wedding.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I admire your ability to forgive your FI and this woman, but I absolutely would not invite them to the wedding. Plus, you guys haven’t been in touch for years. Don’t feel guilty about this.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

Your Fiance disrespected you by even suggesting such a thing in my opinion.

 

Post # 43
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Sorry but the whole thing seems messed up to me! I mean who dates their best friends mistress? I mean knowingly causing emotional distress to your best friend and his partner does not sound like great friend behaviour to me.

Aside from that, it doesn’t seem like you have a relationship with these people so you are under no obligation at all to invite them to your wedding.

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Don’t invite them. 

Post # 45
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Worker bee

It sounds like they weren’t even on the guest list to begin with? Stick with that. You haven’t interacted with them in couple of years and that reason alone is good enough not to give them an invite.

But her behavior and history? HELL NO. 

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