Post # 1
I have an issue that I’m a bit confused about. My wedding is coming up but the people I had picked to be in my wedding party are no longer speaking to me. I was in their wedding but only because a girl got pregant and couldn’t fit into the dress. And since finding out that my fiance has a past on him, they’ve slowly stopped communicating with me, even though at first they just loved him to death. I’ve tried to talk to them several times but they’ve basically ignored me and they only talk to me if they need something, so I’ve picked other people who my fiance and I are now closer to, to be in the wedding party and they all accept my fiance for his past.
Here’s my question, should I even invite them to my wedding?
Post # 2
You could invite them just to do a nice thing, but I wouldn’t be too bummed or surprised if they did not attend. If you have a limited guest list, I would have no problem leaving them out. They don’t seem to support your union with your Fiance.
Post # 3
Oh no….they ignore you so they are no longer friends!
Post # 4
What kind of a past does your Fiance have that would make your friends stop communicating with you??
Post # 5
do you speak to them at all?? If no, then no dont invite them but be prepared that not inviting them you are cutti g ties with them coompletely.
If you speak to them but not often, you could invite them but dont be upset if they say no.
Post # 6
I don’t want to be mean and our guest list is very limited since I have a very large family.
It’s not bad, it’s just something he did 20 years ago and he got into trouble for it. We all make mistakes. And tell you the truth, I think it’s because I don’t have kids, too. I’ve never been able to have kids but they have a kid now and so do all their other friends they hang out with. I don’t make that much money either because I’m in school, so that could have something to do with it as well. There’s so many factors. Crazy huh?
Post # 7
No. You invite current friends, not former friends. You invite those who will want to share in your joy.
Post # 8
Daizy914, no I don’t speak to them at all unless they need someone to vent too. That’s my dilema.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t invite them. This is your day. You want people there that care about you, love you, and are speaking to you. You don’t need to be stressed out on your day.
Post # 10
If their presence isn’t going to make you HAPPIER than no, you shouldn’t invite them
Post # 11
Just no. They’re not friends, they dont support your relationship or you.