(Closed) Invite friends to bridal shower, but not to a family wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really don’t like the idea of inviting people to a bridal shower and bachelorette party when they aren’t invited to the wedding.  Inviting them to the big reception next year is fine though.  Maybe you could have an engagement party with all the local friends who can’t come to the wedding instead?

Post # 4
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Could you just have your bachelorette part next year? So shower now with family and then next year have the bachelorette with all of your friends. This way no one feels like they are not invited to the wedding and you don’t have to worry about explaining yourself.

Post # 6
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Hey Yumi87! Have you ever read the book “Miss. Manner’s Guide to a Dignified Wedding”? A friend gave me the book as an engagement present, and I love all her advice! Her advice would not to have a shower, since this implies that the guest brings gifts for you, and showers are not traditionally thrown by the bride, but by a friend. Since they are not attending the actually wedding ceremony, and thus being a part of your wedding, this would be found in bad taste. I totally understand the budget issue preventing you from inviting more people. If you are able to have a reception next year, is there any way that you could have a ceremony (short-term vow renewal) so your guest can witness it? As a friend who would be coming to this later reception, I know that I would love to see my friends celebrating their love in some way!

Post # 7
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

+1 MissAsB, I definitely agree with you on that one. I would be too afraid that someone would feel potentially left out. I do think it would be best if maybe you could do something separately, in town, and then of course separately, for the destination.

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