- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Background: FI and I want a small wedding as we both hate being the center of attention, and booked a venue with a maximum head count of 40.
Adding up parents, silbings, cousins and their families, and counting ourselves, we have nine remaining spots before hitting 40 attending–eight if we have to count the photographer.
The whole question of whom to invite to fill those spots is frustrating and it frankly ticks me off that we’re spending all this money to put on the wedding and it feels like we can’t even have friends there. At least two of my coworkers are assuming they’ll be invited and I feel I can’t invite them without the whole department, and I can’t do that as with +1s that makes ten people. But I spend 50 hours a week with them and the idea of inviting relatives I haven’t seen since the last wedding in our family in 2005 over coworkers I dearly love also makes the whole business seem like a money pit. I should have kept my mouth shut at the office but too late now.
I don’t consider myself as someone who has an involved family in my life, outside of my father.
One idea I have is sending invitations in two rounds in the hopes that there may be enough declines to open up some spots, but there’s no guarantees. FI thinks we should throw ANOTHER party for our “friends” but more cost, more cleanup…