(Closed) Invite grandfather's new significant other to wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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j_jaye:  +1. OP, not inviting your grandfather’s girlfriend would be rude, selfish, and unkind. Invite her and be happy for him that he has found a companion in his old age. 

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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AHart77:  I think she should be invited.  If it makes you feel better, my grandfather married his mistress of 20+ years so I have to invite her.  My grandmother (Who is still alive and finally divorced him 10 years ago) can’t make it to the wedding which makes me feel better about the fact that she’ll be there.  I don’t like her, but unfortunately I have to invite the mistress.

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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AHart77:  Your grandmother passed away over a year ago and your grandfather doesn’t have to remain alone to prove that he loved her.  When my grandmother died my poor grandfather was all alone and from a generation where most men don’t really know how to take care of themselves.  While his girlfriend (and later his wife) is not my grandmother, she makes my grandfather happy and he didn’t have to live the rest of his life alone (she was with him every day at the nursing home until he passed.)

Extend the invitation to her and let your grandfather decide if he wants to bring her.  If he’s talking about proposing to her then she will likely be in your life for some time.  Plus, if you invite him alone he may choose not to attend your wedding.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s awful to lose a much loved grandparent but how much better that your grandfather has found another partner to bring happiness into his life. 

So concentrate on HIS happiness when you make your decision. At 80 he may not be attending many more weddings. Make yours as joyful as possible by being generous of heart.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Invite her. She is important to your beloved grandfather. There is no reason not to welcome her into your life as well given the circumstances you described. 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

By all means talk to him and extend the invitation to bring his friend. While your feelings are understandable and you have a right to them,  there are many times in life to remember that it’s not about you. This is one of those times.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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AHart77: I’m just stating clearly what everyone else on this thread has already told you. Why post if you don’t want advice?

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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AHart77:  You should invite her.  In general, I belive in inviting people to weddings with their SO.  But in your grandpa’s case, hasn’t he been through enough?  He lost is partner of 55 years, the women who was the mother to his children.  If he’s decided to carve off a little happiness and companionship with an other woman I’m sure it’s no a decision he took lightly.  It’ll probably be upsetting to him if you don’t invite her.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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AHart77:  Good! You are doing the right thing.

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