(Closed) Invite Help! :) Bridal Shower

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m bored at work! ๐Ÿ™‚

I think the way you phrased it for your sister’s shower sounds really good. It gives guests a good reason to skip the wrapping paper, so they’re not left wondering why.

As for the pink and black, I would suggest guests wear it, but tread carefully. Maybe “We would be delighted if you take part in our theme and wear black or pink.” That way you’re being really sweet about it and not demanding at all :). Sounds like it will be a fun time!

Post # 5
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Can I be blunt?

If I received a shower invitation from the bride herself

1. asking to buy her a gift
2. telling me not to bother wrapping it so she can open it quicker
3. telling me what to wear

I would politely RSVP ‘no’.

Post # 9
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@missjayellegee: I think how you worded it is good. You know the people who are getting an invite better than we do so if you think they’d be offended I’d tread lightly. I know my family sounds a lot like yours where giving gifts is exciting for them and I don’t think they’d be offended at all. Same goes with asking people to wear a certain color. I know that my family/friends is all about themed parties so they’d love some direction, but if that’s not the kind of crowd you’re dealing with maybe try word-of-mouth so you can do it on a case-by-case basis (i.e. gently suggest it to grandma, but you can be more blunt to your BFF). Just a suggestion.

Post # 11
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@missjayellegee: Exactly. My family very much believes that the bridal/engagement party is for giving gifts to set the new couple up for their life together. If I suggested a no gifts policy, everyone would either flat out ignore it or throw a fit (or both). Grandma’s are tricky people sometimes…on one side of my family I could totally get her to go along with it (maybe not happily but she’ll try), but on the other side it would be safer to not even bring it up.

Post # 12
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

90 ppl!  my god!

Post # 14
35 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

Love themes!

Not sure if you will care for the rhyming but this could be something fun if you have the room on your invite (It’s not quite so ‘demanding’ I think this way):

Show off your wild side, while we celebrate with the bride. Wear your favorite pink and black, we aren’t talking about any old sack!

And lets keep the party green, you really can’t wrap a sewing (or washing, your preference) machine. Just tie a bow around your gift and the opening will be so swift!

Obviously you can edit from there… sounds like it will be fun! Or you could forgo the pink/black for all the ladies and just have the bridesmaids be more matchy! But I think most women might think its fun! And now I think its a great idea if you don’t want people to use wrapping, if you are ok with it I saw go for it!

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