(Closed) Invite help.. tacky or not?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is this tacky/rude?
    Yes thats a bit tacky : (11 votes)
    48 %
    No its ok : (9 votes)
    39 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’d just use the old standby of including a “___ of ___ guests attending” on your RSVP card and you fill in the second number. That way it should be quite clear that only 1 (or 2 if you’re doing +1s) are invited, and that you actually care how many people are coming. 

    Post # 4
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    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    @bells: You alone know your guests. I know folks that don’t understand __ of __ seats have been reserved for you. They either add more names, or just leave as is and show up with more folks. I myself am in that same boat and don’t know what to do either.

    Post # 6
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I agree with CorgiTales – I think that the ___ of ___ really helps to curb the uninvited.  Out of 180 guests, we had 0 come that weren’t invited!

    Post # 7
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    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Also keep in mind that if your guests bring uninvited guests THEY are the ones being tacky.  So maybe you could print up a little business card that says “by invitation only” or “because of space contraints we regret we are only able to include invited guests” and put in the envelopes of the people you are concerned about bringing random friends.

    Post # 8
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    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Could you put something on the RSVP page of your website that briefly explains your limitations… (ie: “Due to the strict restrictions of our venue we must limit our guest list to the adults that received invitations”)  That’s a rough idea but it might be better than having something on the formal invitations.

    Post # 9
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Can you specify on your RSVP site how many seats each person gets. So they can only RSVP up to the number of seats they are allowed?

    Post # 10
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @melisslp: We had ___ of ___ and people just crossed out the number we wrote and added people to the bottom.

    I’d say if you need to make it clear it’s invite only then go ahead and include it. You know your guests best.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Since you are having the RSVP online, is there a way have the system only allow RSVPs from those that were invited? 

    If not, maybe just include language on the RSVP page of the website that says, due to the venue size restrictions, we ask you to limit your RSVP to those that were listed on the invitation. 

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