Post # 1
Ok I need some help here.. we changed our venue to a nicer hall but it only fits 175 people.. Its actually bigger than the old hall we had, but just have stricter rules about the number of people
So anyway, some of my younger friends are notorious for bringing lots of uninvited guests along with them. Is it tacky to include the words “By invitation only” or ” Strictly invitation only” on the invitation?
Also I’ve been forced to resrict number of kids too. So I;d like to make it to say Adult reception ~ By invitation only
Is there a better way to word this?
Post # 3
I’d just use the old standby of including a “___ of ___ guests attending” on your RSVP card and you fill in the second number. That way it should be quite clear that only 1 (or 2 if you’re doing +1s) are invited, and that you actually care how many people are coming.
Post # 4
@bells: You alone know your guests. I know folks that don’t understand __ of __ seats have been reserved for you. They either add more names, or just leave as is and show up with more folks. I myself am in that same boat and don’t know what to do either.
Post # 5
Also I forgot to add that I dont have RSVP cards, I’m using electronic rsvp on our website.
Post # 6
I agree with CorgiTales – I think that the ___ of ___ really helps to curb the uninvited. Out of 180 guests, we had 0 come that weren’t invited!
Post # 7
Also keep in mind that if your guests bring uninvited guests THEY are the ones being tacky. So maybe you could print up a little business card that says “by invitation only” or “because of space contraints we regret we are only able to include invited guests” and put in the envelopes of the people you are concerned about bringing random friends.
Post # 8
Could you put something on the RSVP page of your website that briefly explains your limitations… (ie: “Due to the strict restrictions of our venue we must limit our guest list to the adults that received invitations”) That’s a rough idea but it might be better than having something on the formal invitations.
Post # 9
Can you specify on your RSVP site how many seats each person gets. So they can only RSVP up to the number of seats they are allowed?
Post # 10
@melisslp: We had ___ of ___ and people just crossed out the number we wrote and added people to the bottom.
I’d say if you need to make it clear it’s invite only then go ahead and include it. You know your guests best.
Post # 11
Since you are having the RSVP online, is there a way have the system only allow RSVPs from those that were invited?
If not, maybe just include language on the RSVP page of the website that says, due to the venue size restrictions, we ask you to limit your RSVP to those that were listed on the invitation.
Post # 12
Thanks for all your suggestions.. I definitely can put some info on the website about it as well.. but I definitey feel that I need to mention in some way on the invite itself..