Post # 1
Several months back my fiancee and I had a falling out with 5 of my close friends. The reason is not important, but suffice to say (sadly), they won’t be invited to our wedding unless some miracle occurs in the next few months (unlikely). It was a rather BIG falling out that may take years to overcome if at all. These 5 are part of a slightly larger group of people I consider friends and two of that larger group I would like to invite to our wedding. I may not see them as much since the falling out, but we still communicate enough that I’d consider inviting them.
However, I’m wondering what the perception is if I invite these 2 friends when I’m not inviting the other 5. I only know these two BECAUSE of the 5. I don’t think the 2 (and their respective husbands) would feel slighted if they didn’t get an invite (they likely aren’t even thinking they would be invited), but I would like to invite them.
NO bashing about how close friends should overcome falling out blah blah blah – I get it….
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
Invite who you want to invite. If they are still your friends, I don’t think it much matters how you met them. If they decide not to come based on the other 5 friends, that is on them. I would include them if you want to.
Post # 3
Perception to whom? The 2 you invite or the other 5 you don’t? In any case, if you really want them there and genuinely would like to celebrate with them then send the invite. It’s up to them if they want to come or not.
Post # 4
This is all very true. They are my friends, now independently of the others.
Sigh – wedding invites are so political…. and we haven’t even had the talk with the parents about who and how many they can invite!
Post # 5
WanderingAlbertan: I’d say you can still invite those two friends. It doesn’t really matter how you met them – the fact that you still talk to them outside of your other 5 friends means you have established a relationship with the 2 friends that isn’t dependent on the 5 friends.