Post # 1
My finace and I decided to only have children that are our first cousins. Any other kids are not invited. Some of my family members husbands/wifes can not make it to the wedding. How ever, the ones that are comming are now asking since there huband/wife can not come can they bring there children/friend as there replacement. I personally think its tacky to even ask but i feel if I say No then i am definitally causing hard feelings.
Also, If i say yes to one then i will have to say yes to everyone that asks..(there are a few people that asked my mom) . My family is a large tight family they all talk……. so if i make ONE exception then i will definitally cause hard feelings.
HELP… WHAT SHOULD I SAY OR DO??
Post # 3
You said it yourself in your next to last sentence…..”if I make ONE exception…..”
I also think it’s tacky for someone to ask if they can bring someone else as a replacement.
All around a touch situation. We have a strict rule – no kids under 16, no exceptions, well except for the Flower Girl and Ring Bearer and they’re leaving as soon as they’re introduced cause by then it’s going to be really late.
Again, a though situation. Good luck
Post # 4
Hiya – how rude of them!
I would just say that your venue dosen’t allow children, and that they are making an exception for your close family. Explain that you are happy for them to bring a replacement date or friend, but that you have an agreement with your venue on the number of kids attending – good luck x
Post # 5
OK so i left out one thing … she is 17. But still then her sister who is 14 is going to be really insulted! AM i wrong ?
Post # 6
I was once that 17 year old who didn’t get invited to a no kids wedding. Despite the fact that my 19 year old cousin was also not invited and the rule was drawn based on a generation, not ages I was still upset. Instead I got babysitting duty haha. I feel like 17 year olds don’t consider themselves children so it’s hard to say no kids are invited. I feel like a one for one swap of a teen child and his/her mother is acceptable as long as it does not cause the flood gates to open. Look at it this way, at least they are asking. They very well could just show up mother and daughter and claim dad couldn’t make it at the last minute so she’s his substitute.
Post # 7
I totally agree! I totally no how it feels to be the youngest and NOT invited to the family weddings. I remeber how hurt it feels…. Thats why im soooo upset about it!
Thanks for the input everyone . 🙂