Post # 1
My Maid of Honor is a friend I have known since elementary school. We don’t see each other nearly as often as we used to but we talk all the time. I haven’t seen her parents since probably high school, it’s got to be at least 8 years since I’ve seen them. Well my MOH’s mom has a friend who does professional makeup and has offered to pay for my makeup as well as my entire bridal party as a wedding present. So I never even thought to invite them to the wedding. We are trying to keep our guest list down but I’m wondering if my Maid/Matron of Honor is expecting them to be invited. What do you think? Should I invite them or not?
Post # 3
@redhead46: If she’s offering up a gift, that generous I would.
Post # 4
I would absolutely invite my MOH’s mom, especially since she is giving such a generous gift.
Post # 5
I agree invite if she is giving you that awesome of a gift
Post # 6
I agree especially because they are giving a gift. This is the third time I’ve been a Maid/Matron of Honor and my parents have been invited to 2 of the 3 weddings. Granted the one case they weren’t was a friend from college who they literally never really met.
Post # 7
I think in general in would depend on how close you are with your MOH’s parents, and even how close she is with her own parents. In this situation, considering the very generous makeup gift, it would probably be rude not to invite them.
Post # 8
My maid of honor is my best friend that I have know for 25+ years. I am inviting her parents and siblings. I think you should.
Post # 9
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend whom I’ve known since we were in diapers. Her parents used to babysit me all the time and even though I hardly see her parents, I feel like they are a second family if I needed anything. They were so generous, when they found out I was engaged, they offered to throw me an engagement party! I’m definitely inviting them to the wedding.
Post # 10
I’ve known my Maid/Matron of Honor since freshman year of high school, I’m inviting her parents 🙂
Post # 11
Well my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister so obviously her parents are invited, but my best friend who i have known since I was in 2nd grade is a bridesmaid and I’m inviting her parents. And her brothers and their wives actually.
Post # 12
My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, but we invited our best man’s parents for sure. We don’t see them that often but they are awesome. In your case I would for sure invite them, especially because of the gift!
Post # 13
I invited all of my bridesmaids’ parents because I know them all extremely well. I think it would be a really nice gesture.
Post # 14
I don’t think that you have to invite them. They may not be expecting an invitation. They may just want to give you a kind gift, with no alterior motives, except to let you know they feel fondly towards you.
But you may want to use this as an opportunity to rekindle the relationship. Etiquette would support you not inviting them. No one is entitled to a wedding invitation, regardless of what “favors” they are doing for you. People should not offer a gift as a way to purchase a ticket to your wedding.
Post # 15
Thanks for the advice guys. Like I said, I never even considered inviting them before this because I haven’t seen them in forever and we have had to cut our guest list quite a bit.