(Closed) Invite Mistake!!!! Too late to change :(

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: How do I fix this?
    Insert a message about bringing dancing shoes : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Insert a song request card : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Send them as they are : (25 votes)
    66 %
    Something else (suggest below please) : (6 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I would either send them out or insert a normal reception card. They used to be the standard, but now we often put the recpetion info on the invitation to save money. You can make them at home or have them printed on business cards at a local office store. Here’s an example: http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/product/4230/signature_white_textured_reception_cards_floral_watercolor.html

    I really think guests are smart enough to realize a dinner selection means that there is dinner and a reception. As long as the location is the same, no big deal.

    Post # 4
    14443 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    hm, maybe I’m wrong in this but I usually assume reception and dancing after a wedding these days, especially if you have an entree selection card.  I wouldnt worry too much about it.  It could be worse… I put the wrong entree selection on my cards and gave a chicken option when I wasnt even serving chicken!  I had to fix that one.

    Post # 5
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think the meal choice will indicate to them a reception will follow.

    Post # 6
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Don’t worry over this. While it’s upsetting, it’s really not a big deal. Typically when the reception is at a different location, the invitation includes a separate reception card with the details. Even though your reception is at the same location, you can include a similar reception card with your invites.

    Post # 7
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I also always assume there will be a reception after the wedding… especially if dinner is mentioned πŸ™‚


    Don’t sweat the small stuff!

    Post # 8
    23 posts

    If it would make you feel better, I like the idea of inserting a little card telling them to bring their dancing shoes. I agree with the others though that people will figure it out without any added message πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    have you considered a reception card?  years ago, the invites never mentioned anything regarding dinner or dancing, a separate “reception insert” with all of the time and place details was included with the invite in the envelope.

    Post # 10
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would go with one of two options:

    1. Don’t even worry about it- with the entree option, it’s pretty obvious dinner is to follow. If anyone is confused, they can always ask you or someone else who is going. You can also spread the word to a few friends/family members (“I can’t wait to dance with you at the wedding!” etc.) and I’m sure it will get around.

    2. Insert a reception card as mentioned above.

    Either of these ideas would be perfectly fine, *and* no one will think either was an error of omission on your part!!!

    Post # 11
    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @mrsSonthebeach:  I think the reception card is the best idea πŸ™‚  +1

    @OP  I wouldn’t assume that everyone knows a reception will follow.  I know a LOT of people getting married recently are not having a reception because the cost is just too high.  They’re usually going with ceremony only for all guests and then dinner at a family member’s house or resturant after for only the very very close family and it’s usually pay your own way or pot luck for those.  If I was invited to a wedding without reception info. I would assume I was only invited to the ceremony and wouldn’t plan to stay longer than that.  

    While some guests might assume there’s a reception after, I know I would be confused about it.  I suppose it also depends on how large your guestlist is though.  If it’s a very small number, maybe you could send an e-mail to everyone, or call them to let them know you made a mistake on the invitations and there is a reception after?  Whatever you decide to do, I definately think you should let your guests know somehow and don’t assume they’ll figure it out on their own.  Good luck! πŸ™‚

    ETA: Try not to stress out too much about it!  Everyone makes mistakes, and wedding planning can be particularly stressful.  There’s a ton of stuff to get done, and nobody will think less of you for leaving something out on the wedding invitations. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 12
    2711 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Haha, don’t worry about it OP!  I’m pretty sure separate reception cards are a popular occurance.  I would just add another insert with the reception information (cocktail hour time – if you’re having one, dinner time, location, and any other information they might need).  You don’t need to point off that you forgot to put it on the invite. 

    ETA: I think I would definitely put in a reception card as opposed to not saying anything.  This is mostly because guests appreciate a timeline of things and will want to know when the reception starts and when dinner is served.  If there is going to be a large gap, they will want to know so they don’t stand around for hours waiting for something.  Or will know to grab a snack if it’s going to be a long time towards dinner.  I actually went to a wedding where the timeline did not match what was on the insert and I was super confused and very hungry and not happy.

    Post # 13
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I assume that there’s a dinner/dancing reception unless stated otherwise. I think you’re fine. Maybe word of mouth that there’s dancing, if you’re concerned.

    Post # 14
    6743 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree w/ PPs – I don’t think you have much to worry about!  You’re having them pick their dinner selection, I think no one is going to notice that you didn’t write “dinner and dancing to follow” especially with the dinner selection. 

    I do think it’s a cute idea to have them pick some songs – as long as you get a final say in the song playing! 

    Post # 15
    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I also agree that a timeline, indicating what time dinner will be served can be quite helpful.  Especially if you have any guests that have medical issues.  Some guests require food at regular intervals, some guests might need to take medication x amount of time before they eat, some need to take meds with food, etc.  Just to be on the safe side, I would let everyone know that 1)there is a reception with dinner 2)what time dinner will be served and 3)where the reception is located.  Even if the reception is at the same place as the ceremony, I would still point it out just so there’s no confusion.  Again though, I think the most important thing is to not get too worked up over it.  It happens, no big deal. πŸ™‚

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