Post # 1
I have this aunt I can’t stand… my parents sponsored her about 13 years ago to come to this country. Since then, they have also financially helped support her. My aunt has not held a proper job, has taken money from my parents and her mother, has been on foodstamps, received welfare, and any other free money she can get. She is totally capable of getting a “real” job and supporting herself if she just got her act together. besides all this, her attitude is terrible. She is extremely ungrateful for everything and is just a rude and embarrassing b&(#$. At my sister’s wedding, she got wasted and ended up falling on the dance floor, embarrassing my sister, myself, and my whole family.
My mom said that I have to invite her to my wedding as she is “family.” That was until about a week ago. She called my mom to invite only HER to her wedding in 3 weeks… Ok now I totally would not have gone if I was invited, but what happened to the whole “family” thing? And to not even invite my dad after all he has done for her?? And yes, she is only having about 20 people, but seriously? And come on, she has known this guy for 2 months and is marrying him so she can stay in the country… and have someone to financially support her.
So now I am very much not wanting to invite her. Do you think I should invite her still because she is “family” even though I’m not invited to her “wedding”?
Post # 3
its your wedding, invite who you want. I only want those who love and support us at our wedding, we are not inviting the entire family. There are some who wont get an invite who have already contacted my mom telling her they want to come, some of these people we have not talked to in years…. My mom told them that Fi and I are incharge of the wedding, we have a small budget and we are trying to keep it small…..
Post # 4
Yeah, the thing is that my parents are paying for the wedding and we are inviting about 180 people. Although the wedding is pretty much whatever I want, because they ARE paying- they want to be able to invite who they want to (which I am pretty much fine with… besides my aunt). All other family is invited – including more distant relatives.
Post # 5
If your parents are paying, and they want her there, then yes, she should come. You can let them know you don’t want her there because she’s ungrateful and you’re afraid of her being a drunken embarrassment, but if they go ahead and invite her, there’s nothing you can do about it.
If you were paying, I’d say don’t invite her.
Post # 6
I (and my parents) have decided not to invite my aunt… which I am soooo happy about, but now I have a minor problem:
We sent out STD’s a couple of months ago and obviously at that time, she was invited and I had no clue she would be getting married. Now that she is NOT invited, should I just not send her an invitation and hope that she gets the message? Write her a letter saying she isn’t invited and to throw out the STD? Any suggestions on how I should handle this???
Post # 7
Looks like your aunt gave you an out… I decided to read your note before answering. Most of the time, I would say go with inviting family members, but there are a few exceptions. In this case, if she doesn’t want you at her event, then she can’t feel bad if you don’t invite her to yours…