(Closed) Invite My Grandmother's Boyfriend?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I invite my Grandmother's boyfriend?
    Yes, invite him by name : (18 votes)
    64 %
    Yes, allow her to bring a plus-one : (9 votes)
    32 %
    No, you should honor your grandfather : (0 votes)
    Other : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    7564 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I would just ask her if she’d like to bring him. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @luluvohn:  If she has been with him for any substaintial amount of time, I would invite him by name.

    The elderly woman I tutor who’s become a sort of 3rd Grandmother to me, has had the same arrangement as you described for about 15 years (her husband died 25+ years ago). She wont call him her “boyfriend” since she believes at her age it sounds immature and silly. I addressed the invite to “Mrs. Dorothy M— & Mr Norbert W—-” and they both were so happy with that. The invitation was given to Dorothy though and we had the strict understanding that if she ever didn’t like Norbert, ediquette be damned, she could bring whomever she wanted instead 🙂 She was very touched by my offer.

    I think your grandmother would find it sweet that you’re acknowledging her relationship and not treating it like it doesn’t count or should be hidden just because she’s older and doesn’t want to put a direct label onto what they have.

    And as a reference Norbert was invited by name to both of her Son’s weddings which occured 4 and 5 years ago 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    6361 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Uh, yes, you should definitely invite him by name. It does no dishonor to your grandfather. He passed away. She is allowed to date again!

    If she was cheating on your grandfather, you could tell her boyfriend where to stick it. In fact, I’d recommend it, and probably wouldn’t invite either her or her boyfriend at all. This situation is not similar to that at all!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Yep, I’d invite him. We were going to invite my grandmother’s boyfriend but then he kicked it. They didn’t even go to movies or dinner together or write emails to each other – mostly they just sat side-by-side in their wheelchairs watching the cats that live at the retirement center.

    Post # 7
    Member
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @luluvohn:  %100 invite him, I’m sure your G-ma will be happy on your wedding day, but don’t you think you would like to see her having a good time with her friends too. And I would wager that he may not come bc they are older and they both know they have had seperate lives. But I think it would be a nice gesture and that way there isn’t a chance of offence by not inviting him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    2485 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would invite him, clearly he is important to her. 

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