Post # 1
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Newbee
I’m still far away from making an invite list (just got engaged a month ago!) but am wondering – is it customary for me to invite my sister’s in-laws? Two of my sisters are married, so if I am supposed to invite the in-laws parents, that’s an extra four people. If I’m supposed to invite the whole family, that’s two more brothers and their wives – eight people? I’m not particularly close to any of them By The Way but I’d rather invite them than unknowingly create friction!
thanks bees!
TBTG
Post # 3
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Busy bee
We didn’t invite my fiance’s brother’s in-laws. We have never met them, and they live across the country. It just didn’t make sense in our case. I don’t think that they would expect to be invited, unless you are close to them.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
i don’t think it is typical unless you are close with them. Maybe ask your sister if she thinks they would expect an invite!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
We invited my FI’s brothers in-laws, but only because we know them well and see them all the time. If you dont, I dont think you need to invite them.
Post # 6
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Newbee
Thanks everyone! I kind of intentionally did not mention that these in-laws are also kind of horrid. They are rude and not nice. At my sister’s wedding, the father of the groom had the gall to say to my mother "isn’t (TBTG’s sister) so lucky to have found a wonderful man like (TBTG’s sister’s husband)?" My mom could barely respond – especially since my Harvard grad doctor sister is perfect in her eyes! hee hee
You’ve taken a load off my mind bees! Thanks!
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
I’d kill my sister if she invited my in-laws to her wedding 🙂
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I am inviting one sister’s in-laws but not the other sister’s in-laws. 🙂 So far, nothing’s been said.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
I am inviting my sister’s in laws…they sort of told me they wanted to come : ) I do think it is a nice gesture if you are not limited by numbers.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
We invited my brother’s future in-laws. My parents really wanted to and thought it was a nice gesture.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
I don’t think it’s necessary unless you’re close.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
We invited FI’s sister’s future in laws, but only because I was college roommates with their son (her future husband) and so I’ve known them for six years and spent a lot of time with them. I don’t believe it’s customary to invite the sibling’s in laws though.
Post # 13
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Worker bee
We’re having a large wedding so the number of people invited was not a consideration. If it had been, we would have made different decisions. We did not invite my sister’s in-laws because she’s not close with them. We invited his sister’s in-laws plus kids and significant others (total of 6) because we are all close with them. If size was a consideration, none of them would have made the cut.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
If you aren’t close to them, and don’t see/speak to them often….then there is no reason for an invite. I am sure they will not be expecting one.
Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
We invited my FSIL’s in laws if that makes sense. We see them all the time. They’re nice people, and it’d be weird to come to a holiday function and everyone talk about our wedding. Plus, FSIL’s kid needs a babysitter since Future Sister-In-Law and her hubby are in our wedding…=]
Post # 16
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Busy bee
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary, but maybe double check with your sister (just on what would make her life easier – ie would her in-laws give her grief on why they weren’t invited to your wedding?)
Good luck! 