(Closed) invite , name of groom given or used name?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
4367 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

How about: William “Jake” Smith Jr ?

Post # 4
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I have this same problem. I go by my middle name and very few people know my first name. Posting to see answers. 

Post # 5
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’m not sure what “normal” invitations are, but if your wedding has a casual style, just use “Jake.” If your wedding is a bit more formal (and that doesn’t mean it has to be super formal) and traditional, I’d opt for @ladyartichoke:‘s suggestions. If your wedding is very formal (which I’m assuming it’s not from your post), I’d use his legal name.

Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think just ask your fiance what he wants it to be. If he doesn’t care either way, just say “Okay, it’s going to be ‘Jake’ so let me know i X amount of time if you want to change it.”

If that’s the name he goes by, then just use it!

Reminds me of my mother – she was referred to by her middle name for her whole life, so it wasn’t until she was about 40 years old and applied for a passport that she realised she had been going by the ‘wrong’ name! She just applied to have her name legally change so her middle name was now her first name.

Post # 8
13 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

This is a great questions and something to keep in mind for our invites. I’ve been going by my middle name my entire life and I think I wold confuse some by putting my first name. lol


But like ladies mentioned I think asking your fiance is best to see what he wants on there. 🙂

Post # 9
1112 posts
Bumble bee

We put my FI’s full name (first, middle, last).

Not his real name…but let’s say it was Daniel Timothy Johnson. If that were his name, he goes by Danny. But we still put the full name.


Post # 10
342 posts
Helper bee

My ex-husband goes by his middle name too. NEVER his first neme.

On our invites I had his full name,  First Middle Last

But all cutesy in script at the bottom, I had

Middle & Emily

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