(Closed) Invite officiant to reception?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we invite officiant to the reception?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, and invite her husband too. : (21 votes)
    54 %
    No : (13 votes)
    33 %
    Polls are my favorite! : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MissNachoLover:  Nope! I think inving the officiant is a more old-fashioned, church thing, when you had the same priest involved in your entire life. I know people still invite, but 99% of the time, the oficiant doesnt go. 

    Post # 4
    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’ve known my officiant since I was 17 years old (I’m 54), we went to college together and he was my choir director! So of course he’s invited! If he wasn’t a part of my past life I probably wouldn’t though.

    Post # 5
    1190 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would just to be polite. They normally decline anyways.

    Post # 6
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are. My officiant is the husband of my mom’s boss, so they were already invited.

    Post # 7
    3942 posts
    Honey bee

    We aren’t. We found ours online too.

    Post # 8
    1901 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    Same situation… We found her online and didn’t invite her. Although after the actual ceremony (when were signing the license) I told her to stay as long as she wanted since she knew ALL of our vendors. I think she stuck around for the cocktail hour and then left before the actual reception started.

    Post # 9
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are inviting our officiant and his wife. They’re sitting with my parents. They’re really cool people.

    Post # 10
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Our officiant is a family member, so yes, they’re invited 🙂 I probably wouldn’t have, otherwise, especially if the ceremony is somewhere other than the venue.

    Post # 11
    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s sort of expected that you invite your officiant to the reception – and if the officiant is married (or otherwise part of a social unit), you invite his/her spouse too.

    If they don’t know anyone, they probablly won’t attend (after all, they could be doing other things that they enjoy instead of sitting in the corner at a party of people they’ve never met!) But it’s traditional to invite them.

    My officiant was a pastor – but not somebody that Darling Husband or I had ever met before.  He’s the son of MIL’s neighbor.  We had a few skype calls with the pastor before the wedding, but we didn’t meet him until the rehearsal.  Both he and his wife attended our reception (and rehearsal dinner).  We did not mail an invitation to the couple, we told them during a planning call, that “of course” both the pastor and his wife were invited to attend the rehearsal dinner and reception.

    Post # 12
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You could invite them to be polite, but since they are of no relationship to you, I dont think that it would be rude to go either way.

    Post # 13
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think regardless of how well you know them, it’s expected and is just all around good etiquette to invite them to the reception. Most often they decline anyways, but your ceremony is pretty much the most important part of the whole day, it’s when you actually get married, and you really don’t want an offended officiant that could ruin your ceremony.

    Also plan to include you photographer with their helper and the dj in your final counts to the caterer, it’s rude to not provide them with a meal.

    Post # 16
    254 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Go ahead and send the formal invitation. 

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