(Closed) Invite One? Or all?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


This is a tricky one. Would you be able to contact those cousins and say “I’m putting together my guest list and I am wondering if you would like an invitation?”

Post # 4
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

To be honest, I think it’s an all or nothing deal. I know that’s not what you want to hear. But I think about if my brother were invited to one of our cousin’s weddings and I was not, I’d be very hurt.

I’m in the same boat with some family friends; I ended up inviting them to be polite.

Post # 5
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would agree with Gemstone.

I’ve discovered a lot of people coming to your wedding are people you “have” to invite.  If they are family, you have to figure out a way to invite them.  It’s all of your cousins or no cousins.

Post # 6
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

That sucks. It truly does. This does appear to be an all or nothing thing. Maybe they’ll do you a favor and not show up.

Post # 7
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This is exactly how my guest list grew from the 40 that we wanted to the 106 that we never wanted!!   The good thing is that those distant relatives that I’m really not that close to that would’ve needed to travel did not end up coming.  If you can afford to invite them, it would be a nice gesture…. but do NOT feel like you are obligated to invite them just because of the one cousin.  I’m just saying it would be nice to send an invitation but I don’t think you have to.

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