(Closed) Invite or Not Invite Problem Uncle?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The whole “do what makes you happy” is bull crap.  I keep getting told that by various people and I run into the same kind of conflicts as you.  I instead go by “do what makes you stress the least”.  If I were you, I’d invite him, and just avoid him.  With 150+ people, that will probably be possible.  As for the expense, just ask yourself if spending $140+ is worth potentially feeling a lifetime of guilt from your grandmother.


Post # 4
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I see where you’re coming from – I have a similar situation with a relative. I am having a small wedding – about 50 guests, so I am definitely not inviting any problem people because there is a higher risk of there being an issue. If I were having a bigger wedding then I may consider it, but honestly at the end of the day it is our wedding and no one is going to guilt me or manipulate me into changing my guest list. I am not a fan of inviting people just for the sake of inviting them. Its one of the most important days in my life and if I don’t really want you there then you’re not getting an invitation. Maybe thats harsh, but to each their own.

I have 3 stepsisters and I have had some issues with one of them so I’m not inviting her. I have not heard the end of this from my stepfather (who I’m extremely close to), but its my choice and she isn’t coming, period.

Post # 5
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Ennie:  This! 

People always say “It’s your wedding.” and “Do whatever you want.” And then as soon as you make a decision they don’t like they lay on the guilt trip! If you avoid him at holidays, do you think you could avoid him at the wedding? 

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