(Closed) Invite or Not to Invite

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

From experience. When my parents got divorced my childhood friend got married a few months after.  They invited both my parents which upset my mom tremendously because she and the MOB are bestfriends too. And my mom isn’t the reason for the split.  My mom just felt like of all the people in the world they should know how hard it would be for my mom to be near my Dad.  It has been a while since the wedding and my mom isn’t over it.  I say make sure the Groomsman is okay with the ex being there.  Otherwise it could cause your FI’s relationship to be strained.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’d say no because it’s still going to be a very fresh wound for him and he probably doesn’t want to see her much right now. You probably should just ask him though.

Post # 5
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

how close are you with her? if you’re not that close with her and the primary connection is with the Groomsmen, then i don’t think you need to invite her.  if you are somewhat close with her, maybe you could just touch base with Groomsmen to let him know and/or see how he feels about it.

even though she assumed she was invited and asked if she could bring a date (wow, that’s crazy by the way), she has to understand that things have changed since then.  and if you are really mostly friends with Groomsmen, she’ll hopefully understand why it would be hard to invite her to the wedding.

Post # 6
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2681 posts
Sugar bee

It doesnt sound like you are great friends with her but really good friends with him. I wouldnt invite her and if you do, I at least wouldnt let her bring a date.  Can you ask the Groomsmen what he would want?

Post # 7
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is the Groomsmen going to bring a date? if not then it probably isnt a good idea for her to.

Post # 9
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Im sure its not like you MUST have her there, you and your Fiance should talk about it and if you both agree the same then there you have it : )

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would think you should be able to explain to her that obviously the GM/ex will be there and hopefully she will understand that your wedding really isn’t a good place for them to run into each other. I would not invite her but explain it to her.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with PP; Groomsmen should be the primary concern. If it was me, I would not want a recent ex there. Maybe you should bring up the subject with the Groomsmen to see how he feels about it.

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