(Closed) invite or not?!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s a tricky one! My husband and I really struggled with this too, because I come from a huge family (dad’s immediate family alone comes to over 60 people), while my husband’s entire extended family is about 25.

Does he have any other aunts or uncles that aren’t getting invited? Is there a special reason he wants these aunts here, or are they just the only family members left?

If he still insists on inviting them, maybe sit down with him and say you’ll scrap the guest list entirely and start from scratch. You have 15 guests, and he can have 15 guests. If he really wants these aunts here, he can invite them instead of someone else.

Post # 4
3283 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We are also having a very small wedding (18 guests) of immediate family only–BUT we are inviting ONE of my 10 aunts, and her SO. I am positive people are going to get offended, but she has basically been like a second mother to me, so I really don’t care.


All that to say, is your Fiance particularly close to these aunts? I feel a little guilty, because I am inviting one aunt and Fiance isn’t inviting any extended family, but he doesn’t have any extended family that he is nearly as close to as I am to this aunt. If he is really close to them, I kind of think you should let him invite them.

Post # 6
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t know….I think if he wants them there then it’s his wedding too and he should have the right to have his family invited. I know you said you don’t want it to be a family reunion for him with just a few of your side thrown in, but his family is soon-to-be your family too.

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