Post # 1
I’ve lived in Boston for the past five years and have a small group of friends who I’ve become close with and will likely attend my wedding in VA. All of my family and bridesmaids are in VA, so that’s where we will hold my bridal shower. Should I invite my Boston friends even though I’m sure they won’t be able to come (my shower will be just one month before my wedding)? I just feel bad inviting them because I don’t want them to feel obligated to buy a gift when they probably won’t attend.
Post # 3
i wouldn’t invite them. has anyone expressed interest in throwing you a boston shower?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t invite them. The only out of staters we invited to my shower were my bms and my FIs mom. I just don’t like the idea of inviting people to events there is 0 chance of them attending, especially when the event is centered around gifts.
Post # 5
I second Kitzy’s idea- I would see about having a separate small shower in Boston with your new friends if any of them is interested in hosting one for you.
I invited one out-of-state friend, but she’s a bridesmaid. I told her from the start that if she couldn’t make it, I wouldn’t hold it against her. She did manage to stop in b/c she was already in town that weekend, but she could only stay for a few minutes before her 6 hour drive home.
Post # 6
I say invite them…you never know. I would definitely make it clear that you totally understand that they probably can’t make it and no gift is required, but why not invite them? We invited out of towners to my sister’s shower and about 5 of her out of state friends got together and made it a road trip. Wasn’t at all expected, but was definitely appreciated.
Post # 7
I actually vote invite them. I’d rather be invited and unable to attend then to feel left out.
Post # 8
I think just invite them as courtesy. My friend got married last year and she grew up in another state and still had close friends there. She invited those friends to both the shower and wedding. None of her out of state friends attended the shower but they did send their gifts in time for the shower.
Post # 9
As long as you make it clear that there are no hard feelings if they can’t make it, what’s the harm? And who knows, maybe it will inspire one of them to put together a Boston shower.
Post # 10
I would invite them as well. I would feel slighted if I was pretty good friends with someone and didnt get invited. Who knows – they could do a road trip! I invited friends from out of town and did not expect gifts from them at all and they didnt send gifts.
Post # 11
I would invite them, but let them know in person that you hope they can make it, and that you definitely don’t want to inconvenience them and don’t expect gifts… you just wanted to share the day with them.
I’m sort of in the same boat, I think some work friends may end up having a shower for me since my bridal party and family are all out of the area.