Post # 1
Sooo FI’s family is complicated and I really need some advice. To begin, his parents were divorced at a young age. He has a great relationship with his mom and step dad, and a rough relationship with his dad and step mom. His relationship with his real father has improved but his step mother is manipuative and emotionally abused him for years.
So far my family is footing 90% of the wedding and his mom and step dad are contributing a small amount. How would you phrase the invites? Since he has had such a hurtful past dealing with the step mom (and they are not contributing) do they have to be included on the invite?
Thank you in advance for your kind and helpful advice 🙂
Post # 2
Do you need to include either set of parents on the invite? It seems that in these types of situations, it’s better to acknowledge all of the parents or none of them. We didn’t include parents on ours, because of this very reason.
Post # 3
Will someone be offended if you write “Together with their families” on the invite? This is much more common in these situations
Post # 4
Thank you so much for the advice, the only thing is, my parents are pretty traditional and I think would be really sad if they were not specifically noted on the invite. They are throwing down a lot of money and this is the first family wedding we have ever had (I am the oldest and first daughter to be married too). I just wouldn’t want to upset them because we are SO grateful for their generous gift and support. AHHHHHH lol :/
Post # 5
Maybe talk to your parents about it? Explain the issue and how grateful you are, and ask if they’d be hurt about it.
Or is it possible to designate FI’s parents funds to the rehearsal dinner, and use their names on that invitation? Or at least, the names of his parents who are contributing.
Post # 6
I was in the same boat as you. My parents are divorced and all parties, including his parents, were participating in the financial aspects of the wedding. We kept it simple in order to not give glory to anyone over the other, and we didn’t want it to be too wordy. Our families loved our invites
Edit: I just saw that your parents would be upset not being specifically noted, maybe after together with their families add a colon and add all the names?? 🤔
Post # 7
ask your parents. my parents paid for the reception and we payed for guest transportation, dj and minimal flowers. they wanted the invite to have their names on it, so i of course honored their wishes, since they footed almost all of the bill!
Post # 8
Hi all, thank you for the ideas. We are going to sit down with my parents and figure it out!!!! 🙂
Post # 9
Traditionally the invites came from the people hosting the party – IE bride’s parents. So would say “Mr and Mrs bride request the honour of your company at the wedding of their daughter, bride, to groom.” – as his mother is contributing a small amount might they be ok with that wording?
Together with their families does also cover a multitude of different family setups though 🙂