- 7 years ago
So my sister is getting married in August. Her and her Fiance are mostly paying for it (they are being a bit weird on some things but that isn’t my question so will skip it!) I see dad giving them some money and mom did buy her dress (first weding in our immediate family so setting precedents). Anyway they are getting married at a rental house on the north shore of Lake Superior and are tring to kep it small. He is from IN and already conceeds mote guests to her. They were talking 40 people, which will be impossible with our family but she’s trying. My dad had 7 brothers and sisters, one died, one is not married and one is married to my mom’s brother…so all in all aunts and uncles there are 12, plus mom and dad. mom thinks she should invite all aunts and uncles (most likely due to cost and fact they never come to other events anyway 3 most likely wouldn’t come and 2 r maybe due to health issues of one) and first cousins. This adds another 17 with SO of those that would come, plus me and my brother. Now of those 6 most likely would not, another 2 would be a tough call..but as it is 18-22 guaranteed..and some she really doesn’t see/talk to and would rather not include. There is a no kid rule, which those (except for one in question) are aware of and fine with. my mom feels she needs to invite all ahead of friends..that I don’t agree with because i definitely have friends I’d invite over family with no regrets. Part of mom’s thing is saving face and not hearing the end of it from some if they aren’t invited…again, mom and dad not paying except dress and volunteered to bring a case of wine too! So what are thoughts of others? Does my sister have to invite all even though she maybe sees some only once a year, if that?