Post # 1
So I sent a Save the Date to my friend and her long time boyfriend (together 10 years this past July). I actually used to live with them so I know them both quite well although I knew her first. So the save the date was addressed to them both, she messaged me and said SHE was excited and SHE would be there, so I was confused, sent her a message and she told me they broke up in the last month but had kept it very quiet while they figured out everything with the house and their son etc…
So what do I do about the invite? Is it terrible etiquette to now not invite him? She’s the person I knew first of the couple and the person I was closer to, we will probably not maintain a friendship if they’re no longer together.
Post # 3
I would just invite her, and maybe give her a generic +1.
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: you can invite just her. She’s your friend, not really him.
Post # 5
@Cory_loves_this_girl: we’re giving everyone an ‘and guest’ we just addressed save the dates to couples living together/engaged/married – we were trying to avoid things like this happening. ‘and guests’ will go on the invites
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: I wouldn’t worry about it. Let them fight it out on their own of who gets to go. I have a feelign they both understand only she will be making it
Post # 7
Hmmm I’d probably just send her an invite. Do you think you’ll stay in touch with the boyfriend?
Post # 8
If you think you will not maintain a relationship with the ex BF apart from your friend, I think you answered your own question. I understand your question, but in this case, I would consider the BF a guest of your friend.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MsGinkgo: Just send an invitation to her and not him. She was your friend first so I doubt he expects an invitation.