(Closed) Invite question…help!

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Are you going to pick up the tab for the drinks? If so, you might just invite your friends to that and not mention the dinner. Kind of like people who have two receptions and invite some people to one, and some people to the other. If you are expecting your friends to pay for the drinks themselves, I think it would be rude. Maybe have celebratory drinks with your friends another time so that it does not seem like you are asking them to pay for the "reception?" If you are really short on cash but still want your friends to be there for the ceremony, maybe you could have a little reception with nibbles and punch at the beach immediately following the ceremony, and push your dinner reservations back a bit. That way, you can treat your friends to a little something at least.

Post # 4
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think its fine, honestly.  It is clear so there shouldnt be any question.  Problems usually stem from when people have certain expectations and you have made it clear. ENJOY!

Post # 6
801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Think of it this way . . . you have your primary invitation to the ceremony that everyone gets (which is fairly standard, not everyone puts "reception to follow" on thier invitation to the cermony, many keep it on a separate insert for those they are inviting to the reception as well as the wedding) and then you have two inserts with the invitation.  One insert goes to family inviting them to the reception/family dinner.  The other insert goes to those friends that are invited to the cermony and discusses the "cocktail" hour.

It’s actually not rude at all.  I would suggest not discussing with each side (family vs. friend) what the other group is doing on their invitations.

Post # 7
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think Pelikila said it perfectly — You can do one formal invitation for everyone to the ceremony and have two additional cards – one for the family for dinner and one for the friends for the "cocktail hour" – I think it would be cute.  I’m sure most of the friends you are inviting are local, but if not I would maybe suggest a place for them to grab dinner while you are celebrating with your family.



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