(Closed) Invite Situation- ready to BLOW!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Tell her, “you ain’t payin, your friends ain’t playin'”.  

Annoying!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Why do I have a feeling Future Sister-In-Law will invite them even if they don’t receive a written invite? Are you doing a plated dinner? Hopefully Future Sister-In-Law would wise up that no food/no chairs would be awkward.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is she paying?

Then her opinion is irrelevant at this time.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

OMG i was going to write a post about something similar but i cancelled it!

our invites have to go out in 2 week due to it being a holiday wedding and more then half the guests are out of towners ( 2+ hrs some out of state & country)

Future Mother-In-Law has known for months to get me a list..shs slowly said oh dont forget this person yadda, id say 6 times. ok fine. this was back in MAY when we sent the Save-The-Date Cards

Fiance and I are paying for wedding ourselves- Future Mother-In-Law offered to pay for photography as our WEDDING PRESENT.

So i sent Future Mother-In-Law a email last monday, explaining to her that i need to get them in the mail in 2 weeks because venue needs a final headcount on 10/31.  Wrote a list of the family guests and asked her to confirm the addresses and get me the remaining I needed.

a few emails later, list isnt done. i get an email 6am..she gave me a few of the addresses i needed.. did Not confirm any i had given her..but then she added 9 MORE COUPLES.

3 of whom are her friends! Now i dont want to whine and complain..but now there will be about 35–40 people (20 couples) at my wedding that i never MET- you see that-none of these people she wants to invite ive ever MET! Grant you, I have 4 people on my list that arent local Fiance hasnt met, but not 35! I have 39 cousins and im only inviting 5 to keep the numbers down.

we wanted a small gathering of our closest friends and family! i also am footing more of the bill then he is.. ive paid all the deposits and bought all the decor, our cut off was 180 now the list is well over 200!

the worst is, with this added 9, i DONT have invites for. I hand made each invite (90).they take 2 hours start to finish EACH!

Fiance doesnt think its a big deal, he says he thinks many of them wont come but his mom wants courtesy invites…. JUST NOT 2 weeks before! UGH

 

hope your situation gets better! ill be praying for us both 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Can you figure out the per person amount (for EVERYTHING – not just dinner) and tell her you would be more than happy to accomodate them if she will provide XX amount?  Oh, and you need that before you send them an invite.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@armychica06:  takes a lot of time for the invites huh? Fiance and i got into this morning when he told me i shouldnt have made them so elaborate and they wouldnt take so much time.  Very shocking to me, but he doesnt want to make his mother mad..im working 2 jobs for this wedding so I left it at :

if those extra people rsvp yes- YOU AND YOUR MOTHER ARE PAYING for them, im NOT.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Put your foot down.  This is ridiculous.  Either she foots the bill for her added friends or you’re not inviting them, case closed. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I’d find out more from your fiance.  Are they family friends, or longtime friends of his sister that are friends of his as well?

My husband’s brother invited a few friends to come to the reception.  I’m still not too happy about it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@GroovyHippieChick:  This!

 

I’m really surprised by the number of people that think their wishes are important when it’s not even their wedding!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That is out of control. Your fiance needs to stand up for you and back up your decisions.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

why on earth does she think her friends should be invited???  do you even know them that well?

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